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Hey everyone,

I just want to share an incident with you guys which I have gone through past months. I hope after listening to this, no one here will make a mistake like I did.

I am a sophomore in college. I was with my gf for about 2 years 6 months, i really loved her and I was assured that she does the same. She is a US citizen. I told her about my out of status situation before we started going out and fell in love. That time she told me its not a problem and she would help me in every situation she could. I introduced her to my family when i was assured by her that she is as serious as i am with her. I had no intentions of marrying her just for my GC. Soon, I found her cheating on me and I was really upset. I talked to her about it and she said she doesnt want to be with me. I am a emotional person, I really got angry when i found out that she was also sleeping with him too. I could not control myself & i slapped her. I did this just because i felt betrayed and i really loved her...i did not expected this from her. Its been 2 months since this happened.

2 days ago, she called me and told me that she will get me deported soon with my family. I couldn't contact her back asking why she is doing this for and what she wants. I get text messages on my phone with blocked #'s saying enjoy your last days in US, you will be sent back soon, and that she has complained about me to ICE.

My whole family knows about this, we are really really upset and we cant express how we feel at this time. We have no support and there is nothing much we can do about it. I feel our house and all the stuff will be just left here to rot if something miserable happen to us. The feeling of this is killing me inside.

Please pray for me, & for your self that nothing like this happens with you guys. Any advice or messages are welcomed. God Bless.

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Damn, the only advice i can give you is to move from your current address . Slapping her in the first place was a very bad idea, now it's coming back to haunt you.

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Slapping her was a wrong move dude...idk maybe shes bluffing

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I have an online rule about not commenting on anyone's personality,but this is definitely pushing it.

I'll just comment on the consequences.


ICE does not investigate Battery,The crime that you have committed would be up to the local police NOT ICE.The crime you have committed if charged by the local police is the equivalent of an aggravated felony under INA & would likely face a permanent bar on all immigration benefits if she has reported it,you would also obviously not qualify for the Dream act.

I also think laneDearIhope? might be on to something,if she called ICE why warn you about it ?

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^I concur, I'd be worried about criminal charges with the local police, which may or may not lead to ICE.

Sorry dude, you lost any leverage you had when you laid your hands on her.

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First of all it's the police that you have to worry about. No offense but there's really no excuse for slapping her.

Going after your family just makes her immature, they had nothing to do with it.

Yeah the fact that she waited 2 months is scary. She seems really immature and kind of crazy. I have a feeling if she's immature and petty enough to go after your family or be stupid enough to send you text messages. She's the type of person who is too lazy to go down to the police station fill out a police report. The police and people who decide to prosecute probably won't do anything if she waits too long.

As for ICE, here is what will happen. She will call if she's not too lazy too look up the phone number and unless she has info on your workplace they probably won't do anything. If she has info on your workplace (if you work), that could mean a possible raid on your workplace which would really screw over your employer if you have one. What about your parents workplace? Does she know about that?

Also did you enter on a visa (even if you didn't) you will not be deported rather put into removal proceedings which last anywhere from a few months to a few years but most likely will end in an order to leave.

I don't know, if you think she's serious, move and change jobs. It's a huge price your family may have to pay for your mistake.

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why wait two months though?

If she was really furious about what you did, i think she would have done something about it right away when the anger was..."fresh".
Why wouldnt she fill a police report right after you slapped her??
Unless she can hold grudges...

I do think shes bluffing too.

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oh jesus! thank god my ex-gf isnt like that..

Oh man, this is bad, really bad. yeah, u should definitely move right away. I don't know what else to tell you, sorry.

I can understand the anger and frustration you had when u find out she was cheating on you, because I was kind of being cheated on too. I can also understand why u slapped her, because I almost did too. But instead, I just pulled her out of my car at that time, like i was really pulling. I admit I did let my emotions got the better of me at that time.

Anyway, that incident happened almost 6 months ago. Looking back, I really shouldn't have done what I did, even though we were really pushing each other's limits. But the important thing to take away here isn't about what u did or didn't do; the important thing is take all the things you've learned from this experience and move on to be a better person. It is also critical to be able to assess yourself. Ask yourself how would you react better should a similar situation arises again(not saying that i hope to)??

I spoke to my ex-gf yesterday after a long while. The conversation was weird at first, but it got smoother as it went along. We had forgiven each other(she has a bf now). I felt like although we had done many many things to hurt each other, the bond is still there. After all, we had gone through a lot in the 3 years we spent together. Yes, we may never be a couple again(yes, i still miss her), but that's okay, because I'm just grateful to have her as my friend. To me, someone who has helped you through your hardships and support you all she could is really rare and precious. And I will do anything to hold on to that relationship/friendship with her, even if it means she's sleeping with another guy. The ironic thing is that the guy she's with now is the guy she kinda cheated on me with. I just can't help it but laugh when I think about it. Really. How ironic?

In the end, what happened in the past doesn't really matter, because it is no longer important to me. I'm just grateful that we will continue to be able to share our lives with one another.

Sorry I kinda had gone way off topic. I just can't help it.

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IMO she's just torturing you [with just cause, I might add]...

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that's why i'm so weary about trusting anyone eventhough that's what a relationship is based on, i ended up telling one boyfriend but after we broke up he threatened to tell all of my close circle of friends (and he did tell a handful who had no clue), thankfully i was already outside the u.s. but decided to avoid all contact with him otherwise he might put relatives in jeopardy & who knows what else

I feel bad for you esp since you now feel your parents will blame u if something happens, keep us posted but good luck im sorry just pray & hope she has a heart somewhere...that is the most evil way to get back @ someone cus it's not just you but ur family who didn't do anything

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Don't worry, she's just trying to torture you.

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I will pray for you. God bless

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lol hahaha seriously she is one nasty girl. I agree with the above posts, she's just acting like an immature high school brat. But you really shouldn't slap girls... With that being said, it is seriously low of her to use that type of thing against someone. I would punch my friends if they ever did that to me! lol

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Can we cut it out with stupid ass jokes already, when someone could possibly get deported? Yes he did something wrong, and his ex is being nasty, but no one should be making a joke out of deportation threats.

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I am with you on this one, its no joking matter.

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dont worry man, the same thing happened to me before, i had an ex that was trying to pin a baby that wasnt really mines, when i broke up with her she called my job saying she was gonna deport me and blah blah, shes just bluffing.

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i agree, it was wrong what he did but he recognizes it & is willing to come here & share his story ... he already is dealing with enough backlash as it is give the guy a break no one is perfect & im sure the slap was in the heat of the moment not intentional (it doesnt make it ok but we all have done sumthing stupid without thinking because of emotions)

good luck praying for you

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Maybe it's a good idea to apologize to her about the slap and lose contact with this girl. Moving is also a good idea. I'm sorry you lost control but be careful because if someday you are in the process of becoming legal you want to portray good moral character and an issue like this will make it harder to become legal.

Don't beat yourself up too much. When I married my husband we had fights and every so often he would threaten not to fix my papers so you're not the only one who does things out of anger, but please next time just punch the wall or an inanimate object.

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...who is making jokes about his situation...? :/

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^I've deleted them already.

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^
hes not gonna get deported, his exgf is just butthurt.



also , stop deleting my posts this is not communist China.

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Whether it'll happen or not, he still had someone threaten him with deportation, and it shouldn't be taken lightly.

I'm not going to waste time arguing with you, your account is now placed in a 3 day ban for not knowing when to stop with your inappropriate comments.

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I am sorry that you are going through this... I really hope she hoped to simply scare you.

For everyone else, wouldn't this be considered blackmail?

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K-man..I think the ban is too egregious on your part. Its not your job to police people's inappropriate comments (unless they are in clear violation of DAP rules) nor teach them manners. The ban should be used with discretion to remove spammers, Alitards and people who are consistently mean and disruptive.

Additionally, alex1234 provides regular updates on the 2008 Senate elections thread and I very much look forward to these updates. He aggregates multiple polls from various sources and provides updates on individual Senate races. I am requesting that you remove his ban and issue him a stern warning.

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Ban has been lifted.

I'm aware of his contributions, and I'm not pushing for censorship of any kind, but the line has to be drawn somewhere. My intention of placing a temporary ban, unlike the permanent bans on spammers/alipac, is a result of plain ignorance on Alex's part. I resorted to the 3 day ban, only after seeing his response to my request to stop, which clearly shows he could care less.

I also realize that it's not my job to police vulgar comments, but do consider the original poster's position. If you happen to be on the receiving end of deportation threats, on top of a break up, the last thing you would want to see is someone making a wise crack at it. How do you think he feels after reading someone say "slap her twice," when he's going through a traumatic time?

Once again, Alex still chose to be a smart ass despite previous warnings. The only reason for the ban lift, is because of a request from another contributing member, Rahman in this case.

I'll be consulting with Nick on further infractions to make sure this doesn't happen again.

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ive been on the same situation this guy is going through. the girl cant prove anything. shes just being an ass.

regarding what k-man said, i lol'd , i cant believe you banned me lol.

and thx rahman.

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how the hell do you ban ppl. I mean can anyone do it lmao just curious really. plus i like outrageous comments they crack me up, even when they're about me ^_^... my motto is: take life easy and dont let little shit like a comment on the internet bother you...and if it does, well, like in real life just stoop to their level give an even more obscene comment XD

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who banned me lmao and why and does it apply to all threads ?!?!?!?

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Yeah, some guy takes my comments too seriously and deletes them, what a loser. There's more to life than the internet.
:D:D:D

I dare you to delete this one....

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I don't know who banned you, or why. The other moderators: Hopefuldreamer, Abaddon, and the administrator, Nick, would know if you were banned.

Your comments were edited not because I took them seriously, but to be considerate of the original poster and his feelings. If you still don't understand it, your mommy obviously haven't taught you manners.

Any other matters should be PM-ed to me directly, I had full support of the administrator on this thread, meanwhile this thread is going to be closed since it's so off topic at this point.