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Undocumented Immigrant 10-11-2024 07:22 PM

I said something that I regret saying
 
I told my parents that I hate them and that it was their fault that I’m in this situation. I really wish I didn’t say that I only said it out of anger and resentment.

beingoflight 10-11-2024 09:17 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
bro thinks this is Reddit.

JayR9 10-12-2024 06:44 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Undocumented Immigrant (Post 772292)
I told my parents that I hate them and that it was their fault that I’m in this situation. I really wish I didn’t say that I only said it out of anger and resentment.

Maybe you should man up and apologize to your parents in person.

Malign0n 10-12-2024 09:11 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
I was in your shoes once. Ultimately, they brought you here for a better life.

Pianoswithoutfaith 10-13-2024 12:00 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
And you apologized to them right

Battitude2 10-19-2024 04:08 AM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
I think it's important for parents to admit that despite their intentions they ultimately caused life altering damage. Saying we did the best we could is not taking accountability for their actions. Ultimately, we got massively screwed.

IamAman 10-19-2024 03:23 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Undocumented Immigrant (Post 772292)
I told my parents that I hate them and that it was their fault that I’m in this situation. I really wish I didn’t say that I only said it out of anger and resentment.

Take that shit back before one of them dies. I had a little argument with my dad before he died and that one little momentary lapse outweighs all the good things I did for him.

Undocumented Immigrant 10-19-2024 04:16 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by IamAman (Post 772304)
Take that shit back before one of them dies. I had a little argument with my dad before he died and that one little momentary lapse outweighs all the good things I did for him.

I did take it back

JayR9 10-20-2024 08:09 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Battitude2 (Post 772303)
I think it's important for parents to admit that despite their intentions they ultimately caused life altering damage. Saying we did the best we could is not taking accountability for their actions. Ultimately, we got massively screwed.

Idk about your family but my parent's generation barely could afford to eat. I'm now upper middle class who eat Michelin on the regular. I'm thankful for what they sacrificed. Although I will admit, I did at one point in my early 20's blame my mom but I apologized a few hours after.

Battitude2 10-23-2024 02:28 AM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by JayR9 (Post 772306)
Idk about your family but my parent's generation barely could afford to eat. I'm now upper middle class who eat Michelin on the regular. I'm thankful for what they sacrificed. Although I will admit, I did at one point in my early 20's blame my mom but I apologized a few hours after.

My personal opinion is that people who cannot provide a safe and legal environment for children should not have kids. Money to eat at Michelin restaurants does not erase trauma.

lachupacabra 10-26-2024 09:13 AM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
After going back to my birth country on AP, I finally understood why my entire family left.
If it is possible for you, I would try get AP and visit your birth country. It might give you some perspective.

leo86 11-04-2024 08:57 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
I regret coming to America on a tourist visa and overstaying it.
Worst mistake of my life.
I was 15.
I did not know fully what kind of world I was getting myself into.
I had no idea of the ramifications of it.
I have been paying for this mistake ever since.
I am 38 now.
Still paying for something I did when I was 15.

DogJuiceMan 11-08-2024 11:04 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
I don't regret anything of what my parents have done.

I know its easy to lash out at them, but they really did move me to a far better situation. Sometimes you have to grab the bull by the horns and grab liberty for yourself with your own hands no matter what the consequences are. What do you have to lose? Your slum shack will always be there waiting for you and the upside is tremendous. Your birth nation will always be there for you no matter how mal-adapted we might be to it nowadays. I've been told I have an American accent to my LatAm Spanish. So funny!

Got to travel across the US. Lived in multiple regions. West Coast, East Coast, Mid West, South West. Got to go on vacations and simply relax by the ocean. Got to simply enjoy doing nothing.

I got to see the statue of liberty multiple times on my flight to Newark NJ to meet connecting flights. And I gotta say she is incredible and breathtaking. The previously impossible dream of air travel, had become a reality and a normal part of my life. Still, the fear was palpable in my chest as I handed TSA my documents for the very first time.

With DACA I got to live a relatively normal life as other Americans do and I do consider myself American. I had to wrestle with that part of my identity for a decade at least. Because who even am I is a painful question. But I went to all of my education here, made friends, made romances, made enemies (who hasn't?) and built up a life here. Even more hilarious and as deeper proof is that I somehow adopted parts of the Ulster Scot culture of the 17th century that became responsible for the worst and best aspects of the southerner culture into my own psyche somehow. And I noticed this on trips between the south(where I grew up) and the mid west.

Got to attend college and sure I had to pay out of state, but we managed. Every single systemic roadblock I adapted to, overcame, and thrived under. It made me tough mentally and spiritually with the patience of a monk and the force of will to move mountains. I got to drive a car. Get a job. Things that are mundane for them are incredible life changing events. I was finally able to just participate in society and it was incredibly freeing. I even got to attend a top 10 computer school for graduate study. Just an incredible opportunity that never in my wildest dreams would I have accomplished in Mexico. This is why my performance is so high in various classes and other studies I take, because it literally means life and freedom. Maybe its an obsessive disorder, but my parents always stressed the importance of education and I took that message to heart. US of A is the top educational destination and it is something I made sure to take full advantage of.

Like finally being able to breathe. Nevertheless, I set out two objectives.

1. Study as much as possible, skills are worth their weight in gold x 1,000
2. Stack $

They can never understand what it was like to finally get that EAD and take the first steps into liberty and freedom because their citizenship was gifted to them by circumstance, never had to fight for even the small DACA scraps. Just luck of the draw. Nobody controls where they start. They Never had to wait at home alone as a child wondering if your parents were caught somewhere. Never had that feeling in your stomach when a sensitive immigration topic comes up. And yes, maybe you could say I was gifted an EAD through circumstance too for after all nobody really belongs anywhere. We just exist, life flows, and our choices make us who we are. In any case I feel appreciative of the life I have and the sacrifices made.

They want adherence to arcane and byzantine laws at any price at any cost, even to their own severe detriment. They are even saying it now when trying to puzzle out the bill for deportations. What can you do? I am powerless to save them from themselves. I'm watching the nation I grew up in, and frankly love despite all, literally go up in flames to the roaring and thunderous applause of 63 million. Is this how the roman empire fell? It doesn't even sting that so many are against me, but instead I feel honored that its so many. Honored to have shared this country with everyone, even those who hate me, honored to have lived here, and finally I am ready to win.

None of this would've been possible had we stayed and just complied with the rules and for that I will be eternally grateful to my parents. So yeah,

Thank you mom and dad for everything.

JayR9 11-08-2024 11:41 PM

Re: I said something that I regret saying
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by DogJuiceMan (Post 772507)
I don't regret anything of what my parents have done.

I know its easy to lash out at them, but they really did move me to a far better situation. Sometimes you have to grab the bull by the horns and grab liberty for yourself with your own hands no matter what the consequences are. What do you have to lose? Your slum shack will always be there waiting for you and the upside is tremendous. Your birth nation will always be there for you no matter how mal-adapted we might be to it nowadays. I've been told I have an American accent to my LatAm Spanish. So funny!

Got to travel across the US. Lived in multiple regions. West Coast, East Coast, Mid West, South West. Got to go on vacations and simply relax by the ocean. Got to simply enjoy doing nothing.

I got to see the statue of liberty multiple times on my flight to Newark NJ to meet connecting flights. And I gotta say she is incredible and breathtaking. The previously impossible dream of air travel, had become a reality and a normal part of my life. Still, the fear was palpable in my chest as I handed TSA my documents for the very first time.

With DACA I got to live a relatively normal life as other Americans do and I do consider myself American. I had to wrestle with that part of my identity for a decade at least. Because who even am I is a painful question. But I went to all of my education here, made friends, made romances, made enemies (who hasn't?) and built up a life here. Even more hilarious and as deeper proof is that I somehow adopted parts of the Ulster Scot culture of the 17th century that became responsible for the worst and best aspects of the southerner culture into my own psyche somehow. And I noticed this on trips between the south(where I grew up) and the mid west.

Got to attend college and sure I had to pay out of state, but we managed. Every single systemic roadblock I adapted to, overcame, and thrived under. It made me tough mentally and spiritually with the patience of a monk and the force of will to move mountains. I got to drive a car. Get a job. Things that are mundane for them are incredible life changing events. I was finally able to just participate in society and it was incredibly freeing. I even got to attend a top 10 computer school for graduate study. Just an incredible opportunity that never in my wildest dreams would I have accomplished in Mexico. This is why my performance is so high in various classes and other studies I take, because it literally means life and freedom. Maybe its an obsessive disorder, but my parents always stressed the importance of education and I took that message to heart. US of A is the top educational destination and it is something I made sure to take full advantage of.

Like finally being able to breathe. Nevertheless, I set out two objectives.

1. Study as much as possible, skills are worth their weight in gold x 1,000
2. Stack $

They can never understand what it was like to finally get that EAD and take the first steps into liberty and freedom because their citizenship was gifted to them by circumstance, never had to fight for even the small DACA scraps. Just luck of the draw. Nobody controls where they start. They Never had to wait at home alone as a child wondering if your parents were caught somewhere. Never had that feeling in your stomach when a sensitive immigration topic comes up. And yes, maybe you could say I was gifted an EAD through circumstance too for after all nobody really belongs anywhere. We just exist, life flows, and our choices make us who we are. In any case I feel appreciative of the life I have and the sacrifices made.

They want adherence to arcane and byzantine laws at any price at any cost, even to their own severe detriment. They are even saying it now when trying to puzzle out the bill for deportations. What can you do? I am powerless to save them from themselves. I'm watching the nation I grew up in, and frankly love despite all, literally go up in flames to the roaring and thunderous applause of 63 million. Is this how the roman empire fell? It doesn't even sting that so many are against me, but instead I feel honored that its so many. Honored to have shared this country with everyone, even those who hate me, honored to have lived here, and finally I am ready to win.

None of this would've been possible had we stayed and just complied with the rules and for that I will be eternally grateful to my parents. So yeah,

Thank you mom and dad for everything.

Bravo, glad you are optimistic about your journey and congratulations on all you have accomplished. Everything is a matter of perspective.


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