Christian Dating for Undocumented Students
 

So... I sorta gave up dating thinking it wasn't meant to be...
I am in nursing school, no time, no money, no prospects, and plus the amount of stress you would deal with in a relationship/ illegal immigrant stress... I thought it would be better to wait till I am legal or not illegal to look for relationship anyway.... BUT!!! with that being said...

There is this amazing girl I met through church event. Beautiful inside and out and the whole shebang, super nice, only year younger than me... rock climbs, runs trails, likes my jeep, I mean the entire package. I feel like I found a precious pearl. Now I am kinda like "what?" where did this come from. What am I suppose to do? I am gonna have to pray a lot about this but she's too good to be true and too good to pass on. Help me out here brothers, give me some advice.

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LMAO just hit it and quit it dude.

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Go for it. Do you want to find yourself asking 'what if' two years from now? There is risks and there is work but if there wasn't any involved and if we always go for the safe bets life would not be interesting...

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If you date someone you don't tell her about your immigration status immediately. You tell her just if you are getting very serious and then she wouldn't even mind that you are an illegal immigrant.

What do you think can happen if you date her? She won't call ICE. Are you serious? come on! enjoy life, don't limit yourself to things because of your status, just live life to the fullest.

Having a beautiful girlfriend will make you less stressed about everything that's going on in your daily life.

I'm suprised to hear that some undocumented people treat themselves like they are fugitive on the FBI most wanted list.

Just go out with her and stop with all the excuses.

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u said it urself, too good to be true, to good to pass on, so obviously you cant pass on her. give it a shot, whats the worst thing that could happen?

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That's great that you found someone you can see yourself with. Don't let your status keep you from relationships you can, and maybe should experience. Get to know her well, and if she doesn't seem ideal..

:p

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Why don't you get to know her and ask her out? If the feeling is mutual, you won't be sorry. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Doesn't hurt to try. Then tell her about your status when you guys get serious and go from there.

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just go for it. life is ALL about risks and having a good girl next to you really makes it easier to get through all our hardships and relieves stress.

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just give me her number and I'll bang her if you feel you're not worth it. I know I deserve more, but she wouldn't look bad in my "trophy wall" either

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juang if you dont have nothing nice to say dont say it at all.


ger, just go for it dude. youre a great guy! and if shes what you are looking for just ask her out! you got nothing to lose! ;) do it!

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Its now or never. You might never find a girl like that for a loooooong time later on...

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Go for it don't think it about twice. You don't want to think back later and realize you missed the opportunity.

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Dude! follow these steps:

1. Ask her out.
2. Talk about status WAAAAAAY later, if things get serious.
3. Find out if she has a single older sister.
4. Introduce aforementioned older sister to me.

Hehe but seriously, dont pass up on life because of this legal sitch.

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So I actually went through what you are going right now...I was working for her dad picking cherries believe it or not in the summer to save money for college...and I waited until the last day and I went to her other job (she also drove the tractor for her dad) at the mall with my little sister and asked her if she would go on a date sometime, the next part caught me of guard, but she totally said yes, and that she gets off work in 15 minutes...lol

To make a very long story short, we dated for 1 1/2 years, and had plans of getting married, unfortunately her mom never completley accepted me for whatever reason, at first I thought it was because of religion, they were super religious....but after I became a christian, it was still there, both her parents thought I was a great guy, just not the right guy for their daughter...so after some complications, her mom pushing, and a few events, we broke up unwinningly at first, but realized later that it was probably the best thing.

I didn't tell her about my status until probably 9 months or so into it, she was super scared about what it was at first because I told her I hadn't told her something serious, and actually kinda sighed once I told her what it actually was.

So yeah, go for it! Make sure her parents are okay with it also ^.^

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Thanks guys, I recently found peace about this. She kind of just came out of no where. I wasn't expecting to date or start a relationship but the ideal girl came into my view. I am definitely going to get to know her better and spend time as friends and continue praying about this. I think God has His plans and I can trust that and be confident in Him. Regardless of whether it works out or not, I can be friends and trust that it'll work out if it is meant to be. Thanks a lot guys.

(yes, if you facebook stalk (few days back) you'll find one, kinda obvious)

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hmm but I would rather talk about my status up front from the beginning when we are friends. I am pretty honest person and I tell almost everyone. It's kinda like accept it or leave it type of thing. I would rather confess it and get it out of the way while we are friends. Good idea or bad idea?

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good you made your mind......Good luck...:-D

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Your right god dose have plan for all of us. And I'm glad you found peace about this, the good ones do kind of just come out of no where. I think you have the right idea about being friends first.
I have no clue if what's a Good idea or bad idea for u but i will say wait until you are good enough friends to tell her about your status because it is a lot to deal with. "Trust is not given it earned" so if she has not earned that level of trust with you I'd be cautious with that whole,

"I would rather talk about my status up front from the beginning when we are friends. I am pretty honest person and I tell almost everyone. It's kinda like accept it or leave it type of thing. I would rather confess it and get it out of the way while we are friends".

She might seem perfect on paper but u don't know her yet, so take your time to get to know her and build some trust between the both of you.

good luck, I really hope things workout for you.

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yep... lol. You can just tell by the way I am smiling like the luckiest guy alive. I agree, I am praying about it and getting to know her better. Not only is she beautiful on the outside... she takes care of her sick mother and sacrificed going to college thus far. Isn't that just golden? I can totally relate to that, especially as a dreamer.