Regret
 

Hi, to all. I've always had this question within.
How many of you regret coming to this country, regret the decision of your parents bringing you here illigally instead of trying to do it the legal way.
I know it is sometimes practically imposible to to come here the legal way and that many of you don't regret the decions that your parents made.
I lived here almost 17 years and at the time that I came here my mom was a resident. I don't know why she chose to bring me and my sister here the way she did. Fortunatly my sister was able to adjust status, but I could not because I aged out. I know that many of you will disagree with me when I say that I truly regret the desicion my mom made. Thinking back, it is not worth your right to work and your right pursue higher education. I am 27 now and have not have a life to live. It's very hard having a social life in the situation that I am in ( that we are all in). It is not worth your happiness to be in a country that does not want you here. All I here from these white people, is that they know that the immigration system is broken, but they hell won't do anything about. They could fix it but thier lazy asses could give a rat's ass. I am just tired of living like these. Thank you for bearing with me. Any responses are welcome.

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I sometimes feel like you, i often blamed my mother for bringing me here but i cant go back now only move on.

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Don't torture your-self thinking that way. Do you honestly think that you would have been better off? You've been here for a while so im guessing you understand that at least you get one meal a day. There's people in other countries who wish they could have than one meal. You obviously have access to internet so im guessing you have a roof over your head. Im just trying to let you see that here, at least youve never really needed many things.

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I want someone to blame for this but I know this isn't exactly what my mom was thinking would happen but I can't help it. I wish things were different I want a life like everyone but I can't have one I hope this gets fix soon.

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dont blame anyone. everyones here for a reason. you live an u learn. thru struggle u learn even more. if something does happen, and it will, all of us will b successful. some ppl who have it all dont take advantage. us on the other hand, once we get that chance we're going to take it and run with it and make something happen. something big! karma, karma, karma! you do good and good will come. dont worry, ur breathing, you got ur family. wanna see something sad. go to a near by freeway bridge and see those poor homeless ppl. with no love in their life.

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I have been regreting it for a few days now. My aunt died two days ago, I ahven't seen her in 20 years, and by the sound of my father on the phone I realized that he won't be around for much longer. If I had a time machine to 1989 I would have stayed back there. Last two days i thoguht about going back and being with my dad and just applying to canada from there but I am too weak to do so. Family is so important. I regret that my 22 year old sister does not know anyone back home. I also want someone to blame. I am just praying that I get to see my dad one last time.

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Hi new member here,
i have been in this country without papers for about 19yrs now, i will be 21 soon and don't know what the future holds. Often i want to go back to Mexico, my country where i could drive, work and go to school without having to worry if i am legal or not. I have wanted this more lately since i graduated high school and realized i could not pursue a higher education. I don't blame my mom because i know at the time she made the decision to bring me and 3 sisters here she knew legal or not we would have a much better life here. My sisters and i all have so much, probably more than we need, more than we would ever have had if we had stayed in Mexico. Still i understand your frustration, I am grateful for what i have but want to do so much more. These past few years i have thought of as a fueling source, its bad now we cannot do much but i believe soon if will be better. Maybe that is why we have to wait so long, when the opportunity gets here we will be sure to take advantage of if.

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I can honestly say that I have NEVER EVER regretted coming here. I am so thankful that my parents brought me here. I have never blamed them for it. I know they were doing it to give me a better life, and I do believe that I have a better life than I ever could have had living in Mexico.
My parents went through some terrible times before deciding to come here, and it was their last resort.

Even through all the shit I go through now, all the sadness and depression that comes with being in this situation, I am soo thankful.

I know that even though I can't go to school, drive, etc., I CAN afford to eat and I have a place to live. I don't have to live in fear of not having enough money to eat.. as hard as it can get here, I know I'm better off here.

And, we have a chance here. It's tough, but at least we have a chance.
So many have gone to college and done great things.

And if you really regret coming here, why not go back?

Yeah, this is your home now. But still.. if you can't see how lucky you are to be here, then i don't understand why you stay..

Maybe your situation is different and your mom should've tried to get you here legally. But you're already here.. there's no use in being sad about something you can't fix anymore.

:D

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I can't regret what I did not do willingly. That's how I see it.

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I don't regret going to the States ( 1999-2008 ). I believe I got a great education, I met a lot of nice people and I was able to advocate like all of you. Sure, there were times where it bothered me not being able to go out as much as I would have wanted. And the persistent fear of deportation wasnt nice either. But I don't regret my time there.

That said, I don't regret my decision to leave the States (1yr, 1mnth ago!) either. I have a good job in Mexico. I'm living quite nicely. The food is great. I have a loving girlfriend. I might party too much, but I've learned to deal with it =P. There isn't much else I can ask for.