Your mental health
 

Am I the only one that seems to be on an emotional roller coaster on here?

Some days I feel overly optimistic and other days I feel like crap.

I know (hope) it's nothing that requires medical attention but I know that what is stressing me is my current legal or should I writer illegal situation.

The only way I relieve stress is on here, talking to myself, or going to church. I have about one or two friends that know about my situation but really can't do anything for me. I also daydream a lot which I know is my mind's coping mechanism but the fact that I daydream constantly shows how bad I am.

Well just wanted to throw that out there.

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Yeah I feel you, specially about the whole daydreaming and all :sad:

It sucks because the more optimistic I get, the worse I crash. And I'm not talking about being optimistic about the Dream Act or CIR and crashing when hearing bad news. I start daydreaming about finishing college here and having a happier life somewhere else and eventually it all starts seeming difficult and I realize how much time I'll be wasting and how much I'll be missing out on. If I just had a license my life would be completely different :( No car means I'm stuck at home all day, means no girls, no trips, heck I can't even cross the street without making an appointment for my parents to give me a ride... I really try to look on the bright side but I start getting anxious which makes my day impossible, and by the end of the day I'm flooded with stress and yeah eventually I just can't help but break down

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Hey arodriguez, It's perfectly normal for you to feel that way. In fact, you have just made me more comfortable because I'm in the same exact boat. However, yesterday, I suddenly thought to myself that why don't I just start being optimistic and realistic 100% of the time instead of suddenly being depressed at times. If you think about it, you have nothing to lose. The best we can do is just stay the course and face any obstacles head on without having fear. Who knows...maybe one day the tables will turn and everything will change.

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I know a lot of people have read this and thought "suck it up". But it's just not that easy! I try to be positive but one news report or hearing about an old classmates success rapidly brings me down.

I wonder if there are other people in the world like us? i mean are there undocumented french high school students??

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Trust me you're not the only one here as you can see a lot of us feel the same way. I though i was the only one that was constantly daydreaming just ask my bf lol. And now that I think about it, it is a coping mechanism because whenever I daydream I run from reality and think of all the possibilities and how different my life would be if things change.

Truthfully, daydreaming is what gives me hope and keeps me going, sounds unrealistic but that is what works for me.

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I feel the same way! my close friends are graduating this year... (almost everyone that's my age for that matter)
and I'm so happy for them but at the same time it depresses me terribly and makes me think "dam this should be me".

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I think we all feel that way at some point. It's tough to survive this battle emotionally. I've gone up and down a few times myself. You just have to remember that it won't be this way forever. I'll admit that sometimes it does feel like a century, political battles do seem to last forever. Although you should never stop fighting or educating yourself on our current situation. I encourage everyone to try and find loopholes through this flawed system. I mean have you ever thought that the system right now may work against us, maybe there is some way we can use it to our advantage? That's why I'm usually not concerned emotionally, because I'm too busy researching how to get myself, and us, out of this mess.

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I think we can all relate to what your going through, but trust me everything happens for a reason so we have to have faith. Its sometimes hard for me to get out of bed in the morning because i feel like theres nothing to get out of bed for. i hate to admit it but i have litteraly NO LIFE!! At least some of you can go to school i can't because i don't want to pay out of state tuition! But anyways what really keeps me going is faith:) I know its not always going to be like this. It just can't

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it's not that we WANT to be pessimistic its something that has been forced on us.

but yeah let us not lose hope!

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Yea man, I get you. Definitely. I feel like sometimes it is just too hard to be optimistic about our situation when the problem might never be resolved. Sometimes I get feelings of jealousy towards some people when they don't take advantage of the fact that they are legal, while I am stuck in a little bubble with little hope for things. But the important thing is to not give up, despite the fact that it might be hard. I know that sometimes we all get depressed and we have our moments that we just don't want to deal with the world. But the way I calm down is by telling myself that because I am going through this situation, I am a very unique individual. Not many people go through this, even if it seems like the number of undocumented immigrants is large. of course, I'd rather not go through it, but I feel that once we all gain legal residency, we will be able to look back and see how much more stronger and independent we are because of the obstacles that we've had to endure in life.