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I don't know if this has been posted before. But since plenty of people talk about break ups and make ups on other post. Here we go.

How does your undocumented status affect your love life.?
Are you upfront and straightforward, or do you wait for the person to get to know you?

If your over 21-- How do you handle first dates? Avoid bars and any alcohol so you won't have to flash your fake id or matricula or do you plan the date?


Do you avoid dating USC's? avoid dating people from other races (example: Does that person being latino make you more comfortable in telling them about your situation)?

Worse break up over your status story? or did it bring you closer together?
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Personally I think I am the avoider type...I just over think it. Turn down dates because it gives me crazy anxiety. Sucks that you have to think about this stuff and not just focus on the person and in yourself.

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I've been with my gf for a couple years now but before her I was a little self conscious about my status cause people always were like oh how come you're not gonna start driving soon?? God those questions drove me insane lol

Effects my "love life" in a way where it keeps us confined to local restaurants and local dates. I would never tell a person about my status unless I truly trusted them so no I'm never upfront about it to people I hardly know

I avoid dating undocumented girls.. Of never date one or get with one (if I was single ofc) cause if we were to get married we'd both be fucked and continue to be undocumented for the rest of our life's so I would never

My gf is the only one I ever trusted enough to tell and she took it very well, so I'm grateful for that

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all I need is a beauty and a beat!

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I feel that my undocumented status definitely affected my love life and it honestly makes me pissed. It has prevented me from meeting a potential BF/husband since I barely leave my house or talk to anyone. I have made a lot of poor decisions on dating guys that weren’t good for me because I just felt like I would never be able to meet anyone better.
When I was in a relationship, my status was definitely a hassle. I always had to rely on the guy to pick me up and take me home. I felt bad for one of the guys because he would have to pick me up after I got off work, we would hang out for a few hours and then he would have to take me back home the same night. We didn’t live super close to each other. He had to wake up early for work and by the time he got back home from dropping me off he was really exhausted. If I could drive, I could just come and go since I didn’t have to wake up too early for work. Needless to say, after a while he stopped wanting to hang out with me so much. At the end of our relationship, I think he was only picking me up on the weekend. Oh and by not living that close to each other, it was only like 25 min and it was a huge hassle for him.
I also felt like it sometimes made the relationship boring. We couldn’t do many things since I didn’t have an ID. Guys tend to get bored easily if you're doing the same thing every night.

I’ve only told 2 guys about my status. One of the guys I knew for a really long time and I just ended up telling him one day. The other guy I told him really early on. I was really starting to like him and he kept going on about how he wanted to do so many different things with me which involved showing ID like going to the shooting range and I didn’t want to start with the excuses on why I couldn’t and didn't want to sound like I didn't like doing anything either so I just told him.

I do avoid bars when the other person doesn’t know. I tell them that I don’t really drink and that I am a homebody lol.

I’ve only dated USC and I tend to go for the gringos lol. I feel like maybe I need to look for a Latin lover next, but I just don’t really know any Spanish people IRL. I kind of strangely prefer blonde and blue eyes.

Worst break up story: it was with the guy whom I told early on. When I initially told him, he didn’t care at all. I would say a few weeks later, he dumped me via text message lmao. He said it was because I couldn’t do anything that required an ID/couldn’t drive and I couldn’t travel. The weird thing is, he never traveled and he wasn’t much of a drinker or bar person. Maybe this guy was just a douchbag.

Best story: the guy that I knew and dated for a long time. One day we were hanging out, he could just tell that I was in a funk. He literally made me tell him what was going on in my life and genuinely wanted to listen to me and my issues. He first told me one of his big private secrets so that I would feel comfortable telling him mine. It brought us so much closer. That was a great day. I miss him.

Bored yet?

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^ No not bored at all. lol.

I agree with not dating someone else that is undocumented. "Cuz we both be fucked"
I tend to go for guys out of my league so sad story.

But, on the other hand I think is a safety and protection thing. Because I can't drive myself to the first date and keep myself safe. I avoid it. Ya know! If its a bad date and they are driving. How do I escape kinda thing.

Glad others have made up stories like me. I use the "I can' drink because I am taking medication" lol. or I don't like beer.

Poor guys.

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"Cuz we both be fucked" = loling and true.
yeah not being able to drive on the first date just plain sucks. you are right, if you don't really know the person that much, it could be dangerous, like if you met them offline lol. and yeah if they end up being a total douchbag, you can't just be like "going to the bathroom" and leave instead lol.
ugh hurry up DACA, i need a social and love life.

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Why not anything >3?

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JayKay! I feel like being undocumented has affected my education and social life more than my love life. I doubt I'd have a relationship right now even if I was a USC. :lol:

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^ I can get into clubs with by passport. But, when people follow up with "can I take you on a date." Thank god they have not been my type and I politely decline. But, awww. Peer pressure. My friends are like you should go on a date with him...give people a chance...

I have a guera friend who is into the online dating thing. Keeps saying she can give me the sites she is on if I want to try it..lol. Hell no!!!

Yeah, social life and career connections. My graduate association always has these mixers and career meet up at bars. I never want to risk being carded. So, I don't go.

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Sorry, I can't help but to ask.

If a USC is a douche for refusing to date an undocumented purely due to her/his lack of immigration status, how can you morally justify it when an undocumented does it to a fellow undocumented? I understand the reasoning, but I don't quite sympathize with it.

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I wouldn't mind dating a fellow undocumented guy as long as he's worth dating same goes to USC's, PR's, etc.