Relationship and job offer
 

Hello fellow dreamers,

Today is really a disappointing day for me since I thought we would get something done from congress and this would haven been a perfect birthday gift for me :sad: I'm sure we will be okay at the end since our lives are much different from pre-DACA era, but I'm really starting to think about possible option to adjust my status and my parents.
Long story short, I worked my butt off in grad school and I'm about to become a pharmacist in a couple months. I already got a job offer from retail chain last year but I'm still in the hiring process to do my paperwork eventually. I have a gf who just conducted her USC interview last month and she is about to become a USC in couple months as well. Although we haven't been together for long time, we have been always talking about our future together.
But when it comes to a marriage, I don't know what's the right choice since my gf doesn't even know about my status and at the same time I worry about future of my parents who invested everything on me. Marriage was always a last option to me but I'm on the verge of become a licensed pharmacist so I can pay off my loan and things are just getting complicated. I would like to hear some advice from my fellow dreamers regarding my situation. Thanks!!

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Lock that girl down before I come snooping

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I would suggest being honest with yourself first. The rest will fall into place.

I never truly understood that....but it really is the truth.

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Tell her the truth. If she loves you, she won't care. Heck she will be glad to help you out and anything to keep you here with her

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I was in the same situation with my girlfriend. Told her the truth and she is my wife now.

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Tell her the truth.

I told my boyfriend and he doesn't think it's a deal breaker.

I am sure if you guys have been dating for a long time she will accept you.

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If you have been together for as long as you say, I am sure she is already starting to pick up on the cues you are delivering of your stress and she may start wondering what is going on.

Alleviate her concerns and let her know.

I told someone I liked several years ago that I was undocumented, this was before DACA passed. She was the first person from my friends that did not know of my status to learn about this. I had stressed about how she might react, half expecting that she would not want to talk to me anymore due to my betrayal.

Her reaction was thankfully of support, we have now been married for over a year and a half and now I realize how silly those fears where.

Let her know, she was going to find out eventually.

As for marriage, let me just share that when she becomes a USC, you would be considered her immediate relative, if you are overstay it will mean ability to get a work authorization rather quickly, following by a conditional green card, eventually permanent residence and USC a few years later.

If you see her in your life for the long run, this could be an option, if you want all the bells and whistles, you can decide to wait and just do it via court for now, and work your way up to a wedding later on.

My wife and I married in a small ceremony, we want our wedding via church to be either in Mexico or Colombia, where we can have more of family present and it will probably be far more affordable.

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Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. We have been dating only about 4 months since I met her in the church. We are constantly talking about our future together but not thinking too seriously about marriage at this point. I feel guilty of hiding her the truth about my situation, but I also don't want her to think that I'm thinking of marriage because of this reason as well :(
But I love her so much and I want her part of my life regardless of situation and i'm just trying to figure out when is the right moment to tell her the truth

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damn boi, throwing the L word and everything. Ive been dating my gf since october and we are still slowly cooking up our feeling words at the moment. I say do it. Clearly you know what your intentions were and its win win situation for both of you if she feels the same way.