Anxiety/Depression stemming from immigration status
 

Ive always had baseline anxiety and depression that has stemmed from immigration issues since high school. I've always pushed through it by being healthy, working out,etc.

Recently (I made a post about this), I dealt with a cheating gf. We were planning on getting married. We're broken up now.

With that being said, my anxiety and depression has peaked bc it was a double whammy (dealing with cheating and immigration). It's been about 3 months since the break up. I'm seeing a therapist. That has helped a little. Today, my therapist recommended that I talk to my Doctor about possibly being on medication.

I'm not sure if I need it, but I'm willing to have the talk.

I guess what I'm asking is if anybody has been on medication related immigration status. If so, what was your experience. I understand that is a personal question. So if you don't respond, I get it. You can pm message if you're more comfortable.

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Not to try and rain on your parade here, but not having immigration status is a regular old monday for me. Not really a problem for me, but I could see how certain individuals would have trouble understanding it.

At least you're not the type of person who goes their whole life thinking they are USC only to find out at last minute that they are illegal immigrant.

Please get all the help you need. I will be rooting for you from under this hurricane.

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I hear ya man. I've been moody and irritable lately. Even had a few moments of dark thoughts.

But - in the end - I'm a citizen of the world. I've got a loving family, friends, and a personal drive to exist and succeed. Even if things go completely south and I go back to my home country - I am still going to do the best that I can.

I'm in my 30s now and I have a better perspective of the world. I've had lots of friends who've lived overseas for "funsies" and with the internet the world is so small now! I frequently talk to people online that I only see every couple of years because they live across the world. Hell, I've got friends that I talk to every day and they live in the same city (or work in the same COMPANY) that I only actually see every few weeks or months.

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Get some help, a professional would have the right answers. Don't be afraid to share.

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Talking definitely helps. I think it's safe to say most of us with legal status issues have gone through some depression, some more than others. I experienced it more in my early 20s. Not being able to work wherever I wanted while my friends did or able to drive without worrying all the time, not traveling, hating the world including my parents at one point. Like texasdreamy mentioned it's about perspective. As we get older we realize that if need be we will make it no matter where we are. We hope to be legal citizens of this country that we love so much but trust that people in other countries are perfectly happy too. If worst came to worst and we got picked up and kicked out we would survive.
All of this has only made us stronger.

Now a break up is always hard especially when you're cheated on and I say this from experience. It took me a long time to get over it I'm not going to lie, as a matter of fact you never really get over it but you eventually accept it and learn how to deal with it. Once you reach that mental state then you'll be fine and life goes on. Talk about it with a good friend that will listen, that was my mistake I kept it all in because I felt ashamed but I was really just making it harder for myself. Keep yourself busy with work, go out with friends, family etc. I know it hurts but remind yourself that you deserve to be with someone who truly loves you and no one else.

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I have so much anxiety I have been suffering of panic attacks when I drive. It landed me in the E.R once already because I couldnt even walk or talk. I know being depressed and anxious sucks, but you just have to be strong and go through the feelings. A big help for me was getting involved more in church and and trying to stay busy doing relaxing things. It is a long process, but you will get better with time. Whenever you feel anxious just remind yourself that it is just a feeling and it will go away soon.
I wouldnt go on medication and my doctor recommended against it because the type of medications to treat anxiety and depression are addictive and can harm you more in the long run, but that is your choice to make.

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I feel you. Im sorry this is happening to you, no one should feel this way.

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OP, please get professional help. This is serious stuff.

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Dude...

Met the girl of my dreams and we were together for some time, we lived together and worked together, we were like we had met before in another life time it was incredible, and we couldn't be together because of this motherfucking bullshit, we both attempted suicide because of this bullshit, 3 years ago, we are both alive and apparently she moved on and i got a career, but i know for sure she still thinks about me.

Fucking uncertainty is unreal, i dont even know what the fuck to do with my life, i dont even know if im ever going to see her again, im killing myself working 7 days 12+ hours, gotta keep this shit from taking over me. I just go right to sleep as soon as i get home. I get attacks every now and then when the thoughts take over, avoid medications as much as possible or you will become dependent on them and fuck yourself even more. Distract yourself from this bullshit reality, go to school or work a lot like i do.