Originally Posted by 2dreamORnot2dream

Reaper what exactly did you gain by telling this person your status. You just said that she did not love you any less. She did not love you any more for you lack of papers, did she? And then you state the fact that you are no longer going out. Which precisely attests to our point in why not to tell. Why would you want somebody to have this power over you? People change. Relationship dynamics change. You don’t want to have someone use it in a coercive way if the relationship does not work out.

Once you tell someone and that information leaves your mouth you can no longer control it. You don’t know who else she/he will tell. Why would you want to make yourself vulnerable? I know you think that the person that you’re dating at the time is the most ideal person and appears to be perfect in every way. That’s why your dating him or her. But people do break up, people do change, and people do some cruel things to each other.