To give you an idea of how bad it is, I had "ask me for my photography website" on my profile. I sent out about 200 messages, got 20 replies, most of them not really interested, some kind of -- but not a single one ever asked to see my photography. That's how self centered women are on these sites. By the way, I'm okay looking, athletic, nice vacation pictures, have a sense of humor, and unique first messages. Women will reject you based on any little detail.