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Originally Posted by iDream
so what do you actually have to do to save yourself from going crazy??
Possible answers:
1.keep yourself busy.
-with what? School? well i dont have enough money to pay for school. Besides if i do finish college, what the heck am i going to do with my degree... some of you may say, well make sure you take a course that will be in the S.T.E.M program.. and my answer is like, uhmm my brain can't handle those kind of course and its too damn expensive. Work? yea i have a job. ive been working there for 6 years. ive been there for so long to the point where i can do my job with my eyes closed. But despite of me being so reliable in that job, my salary hasn't been affected. HA! i work 40 hours a week and i get paid with less than the average per hour income. aint that a bitch?
2.hang out with friends
-what friends? oh do you mean, the friends i made during high school, but ever since graduation, they went out and made something out of themselves. went to college and graduate and now they have a career? and some got married and have kids? And once in awhile some of my friends will have a little gathering to catch up, and i will get invited but i chose not to go because its either they will go to a club or a bar, you know the place where i cant go? since i dont have an I.D.?
3.Get a hobby
-Hobby? sure i have a hobby.. i love to draw.. but seriously? how far can my hobby really take me? you can only do your hobby in a certain amount of time until it gets old and boring.. and you start thinking about the reality. the reality that life is passing you by.....
4.Spend time with family
-i love my family to death. But its kinda hard to hide your emotions towards your parents.. you know that bitterness emotion with a little bit of hate? Every time i have a talk with my dad about my situation it always end up, me being angry at him. Its hard not to get that emotional with him because i feel like he couldve done something to make it better. maybe im wrong, maybe im just looking for someone to blame. i dnt know.
5.be more spiritually involved
-Im a christian. Ive talked to God about my situation. Cried and Begged. but for some reason, He's not answering me.
6.stop complaining and think about the other people who's going through harder times than us.
-Yea, maybe there are other people who's going through alot worse than I am. But honestly, the amount of stress that this situation put me in. I cant think right. Im exhausted.
so tell me, what else should I or anyone else who feels like they've done everything to stay sane? hmmmm... I'm just really exhausted and i know all of you feels the same way.
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I'm going to systematically give you advice, in the same order and same topics that you asked.
So number 1. Keep yourself busy. There might not be a lot I can say about this, but I know I might get you to understand what you should be doing. How do we keep from going insane? In our situations it seems like there is no answer to that question. That only a few lucky guys have it good and the rest are just suffering with no light at the end of the tunnel. Well the only difference between you and those lucky guys is that they actually think they're lucky and you don't have a reason to think like that. Find a reason. Nobody's life is perfect we are all missing things we need. Even Warren Buffet would trade his fortune to have your youth because something we lose become more important when they're gone and not while we have them. I'll leave it up to you to figure out what you should be grateful for. I personally think that the whole point of life is to be happy. And to do whatever it takes to be happy for as long as possible. So with that said "keeping yourself busy" is not the answer. Keep yourself happy. Happiness isn't a destination and it is not conditional. It is an inner feeling that you privilege yourself. Realize being alive is reason enough to be jumping for joy.
number 2. Friends... What can I say about friends that will be refreshing and helpful. Friends is a word that has become ambiguous in meaning as the hands of time turn. I'm sure you have friends from high school, friends from church, friends from work, friends on facebook, etc. What makes them friends and what are they supposed to be doing to make me feel better? The answer is you make them friends and they aren't supposed to be doing anything to make you happy. Like I said you are the key to your own happiness. So for something that hits a little closer to home. How about you organize a get together. At a place suitable for you. I'm sure some would be happy to go and spend time with you.
3 get a hobby. Hobbies are great. I love astronomy. I could sit outside all night just looking at the stars. I'm lucky my neighbor is in the astronomy club and he takes me to the observatory to look through and volunteer with telescopes. A hobby isn't a prescription for sanity it is just something you enjoy doing. So find new hobbies other than just drawing maybe you'll find something that doesn't bore you after awhile.
4 Family. Family is important because in the end they are the ones who care and will always care. Sometimes friends become family and you don't even realize it. Be glad you can see your dad. Maybe you don't even have to talk to him just be glad he is there. Not everyone is that fortunate.
5 If God gave us everything we asked for would we ever learn? He gave us free will because we deserve to make the choices that shape our own lives. The reason there are bad feelings in the world is so that we may recognize the good feelings. I'm sure you've heard that. Consider your situation an opportunity. An opportunity to surmount hardship and still be great person. Think about the person you would be, what kind of character you would have if everything was given to you always. I know my situation has been hard and it still is, but I love the person I am and in a different situation I don't think I would of come out the same. Keep a strong faith, and remember they are all opportunities what you choose to do with them will determine the very essence of your soul.
Number 6 is a doozy. There is always someone bigger, better, stronger, faster, less-fortunate, poorer, sadder... The list goes on infinitely in both directions. So what. This is about you. And what you are going to do, and what you are going be. You have the tools for greatness I believe everyone does, we all just need that small push in the right direction. So I hope you like what I've said and it helped you reform your conclusions. Always keep an open mind, follow the golden rule, but most of all feel happy.