Originally Posted by dreamofgold

I second all the posters saying it takes time.

Time heals...

I was in my first serious relationship for 2 and a half years. My first love too. Although my ex never said it when we broke up, I think my situation back then about my status was one of the reasons for the break up.

It hurt like hell. We had plans to marry. We would talk everyday, and at the start of the relationship through the middle we would be on the phone for about 12-14 hours a day, just talking and what not.

Nothing hurts like hell when both of you are on the same page and you feel you've have found "the one".

At first, it feels like you've been stabbed. You'd cry and think what went wrong. You would think about it everyday. Then it fades a little. You meet new people. And you move on slowly. But you will never forget. Until this day, at times a catch myself thinking of my ex. It's been about 2 years. But I have learned that although it was tough, my ex did not love me enough to go through with marrying me.

So think about this, if you think you found "the one" and something happened and your partner ended the relationship because of "papers" then your partner did not love you unconditionally.

Unconditional love is what it takes.

Stay strong, take it slowly, you'll find someone else.

A piece of advice is to cut everything off from your ex. No phone calls, texts, nothing.

P.S. I am currently in a relationship and my past relationship has made my new relationship even better. You live and you learn.