Quote:
Originally Posted by legendver2
Not to swerve into a whole other topic, but if you got game, it doesn't matter. I was with my ex for about a under a year before I told her, and she didn't mind. In her mind at the time, she felt I was the guy she was gonna marry. We stayed together for 4 more years after, and if things would've worked out between, us, we probably would have gone that route already. Because I wasn't able to work at that time, it made things difficult, and her own family pressure to find a more capable man who can take care of her for the rest of her life made things more difficult. Eventually we fell out of love, but we're still good friends to this day.
I have another friend who is in the same boat as us, and he told his gf at the time about his status. She didn't care, and they stayed together for 5 more years until he broke it off with her after it didn't work out.
All I'm saying is, yea sure we didn't work out, but we stayed together for a long time after we gave them the heads up. I'm sure if we had DACA earlier, and I was making decent money, I would've already proved I'm capable since the handicap was lifted in a sense. I mean I've read other members hear in the job threads in the Lounge forum and some of you guys are making bank, if not super decent money. You just gotta get over the fear of telling them. If they're a decent person, and if they love you or truly care, they wouldn't mind. Hell some crazy obsessive people might even use that as a hostage tactic so you won't leave them in exchange for getting you a GC, tying YOU down for marriage because you're such a great guy/gal. You never know until you play the game. So don't be afraid. Worse that can happen is you guys don't work out. So don't be afraid!
|
I guess i'm looking at it from a whole different angle. I have no problem finding girls that want to date me and all of that, at all. My problem is that i feel like i would be somewhat trying to trick a girl into being in love with me just so that i can fix my status. You guys don't feel that way even a little bit?
Hell, my ex-gf offered to help me even AFTER we were already broken up, had been in love, and all of that business.
I'd like to think i'm a pretty decent looking guy, good personality, job, etc. I have never had a problem approaching girls, dating them, sleeping with them, making them fall in love with me, etc. But It's not a matter of whether you have game or not. It's more a matter of whether you can live with it or not. I personally can't bring myself to drag someone else into my own problems, regardless of whether i'm in love with the person or not. Maybe i have too much pride, but whatever. I have been that way my whole life with every problem i've come across with.
It's like we're screwed either way. You either tell a girl right away about your status, and she will probably run off. But how could you blame them? And if you wait for a while before you tell them, then it looks like you're only in it for the GC.
Call me stupid or whatever you want, but i want to be able to fix this problem all on my own and not drag it into a relationship. Even if the chances don't look so good for doing it on our own.