I dated a girl for about a year and didn't tell her until towards the end of the relationship, when she started getting far too suspicious about many things regarding my status. While we had other problems too that contributed to our breakup; when i finally told her and randomly showed her that article that Jose Antonio Vargas did for the NY Times 'cause i had just come across it myself, she was amazed at how well she completely understood the situation and why i did the things that i did or kept things from her the way that i did.

I never wanted to lie to her, but i had to. And while there's some truth to the fact that someone will love you no matter what, there is still some sort of resentment from keeping something so big from someone else. I guess i'd rather be honest from the beginning if it's someone i truly want to engage with and care about.

And again, i do not condone fraud. I was just making a joke more or less. Although it's happening more than you probably think.