I'm in a similar situation, everyone else in my family is legal (citizens + 1 gc holder). But, think about what you just said, "I only care about us who qualify." Stability is not a prerequisite for empathy. Our situation is hard, but that doesn't mean we should just look out for ourselves, especially when others are trying to look out for us. Also, you're creating a type of fallacy known as a false dilemma, meaning, you're making it seem like those are the only two outcomes, when in fact they are not. There are middle grounds in there, and the only way we can get a solution is if we land somewhere in between.