Very poignant post. I would also like to add something, from my own perspective.
Speaking from experience, I would encourage anyone here that if they haven't already planned for an exit, that they begin immediately. Mentally prepare for the idea now, because it will become easier to digest as time goes on. It might even become an appealing option in the near future depending on what the GOP wants to do.
For my entire adult life, I wanted nothing more than to have a steady stream of thoughts that never once had to be interrupted by having to consider my lack of status and how that would impact certain decisions/careers I could do. Doesn’t it suck looking at job listings that are by law USC only but you’re an otherwise perfect candidate? Every single person here knows this feeling. I’m preaching to the choir.
Since I have left the US two years ago, I no longer have that weighted vest around my chest anymore that will randomly tighten if a conversation goes in a direction involving travel, voting, government work etc. My quality of life in a few ways is better now than before (food and healthcare). I haven’t felt this healthy since before I found out that I didn’t have status.
I want to emphatically say to anyone still reading that you can have a very good life in a lot of places around the world, this isn’t the 1950s. No place is perfect, but where I am now feels pretty close, and I would not consider going back to the US even if I was a dual citizen, I value the peace and quiet that can only happen when there isn’t a Trump in the country. I can’t put a value on the freedom of movement that I never used to have before, and frankly the idea of living under DACA is unthinkable now in hindsight. My passport is valid and I can go where I please, like a human with dignity.
It took a little bit of work but I am in a good position now only because I became very serious about considering a different life in a different country, at first conceptually, and later in more concrete terms. I made deliberate decisions with my finances (with an advisor) all the way back in 2014 that would allow me to basically hit an eject button so that I could pack up and go on short notice if necessary. And I am thankful that I did that. I know some users here have quite literally no option to leave and for that you have my absolute sympathy, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
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