Serious Relationships... - Page 9

You guys keep telling me to stop contacting him. But obviously he still has feelings for me, which means I might get a second chance. The thing here is that there's a third person now. This girl likes him and he likes her too. This is a very sensitive time....
I do know one thing, I don't want him to give me a second chance just because he feels sorry for me. I don't want to be with him if he doesn't want to be with me.
On the other hand, I don't want to just "give up" after all this time we've been together. I don't wanna blow the last chance I might ever get.
I do not want to look desperate, but what if he decides to start a new relationship with this girl? I never ask about this girl because I know my heart will just melt. I think it's best for me not to know anything.
This is all so confusing. I don't want to give up so easily, but I don't want to look desperate either...

I sound a little bit pathetic ^^ ^^ but good thing this is an online forum... I can vent, feels good!!

He likes another girl? How can you still want to be with him? He seems like he is playing it safe. He wants to try with other girl and if it doesn't work out he has you as back up.

He hasn't said that he likes her, but from what I've heard she is not ugly they have things in common, why not? Let's be rational. Just because you're in a relationship or you still have feelings for your ex does not mean there's no way you can like someone else. It hurts, but it happens. Am I the only one who thinks this? When I was in a relationship there were guys in my classes that I found very attractive, does that make me a bad person?

I know what you mean by being his backup, that's horrible if that's the case. I do not want that. How can I know if I am his backup? I feel like he's really hurt. Last time we saw each other, he was having a hard time just like me (he even cried) but he said we should just be friends that us getting married would only make us miserable.

Thanks guys for reading my posts, it really helps me. It's nice to get some objective feedback. I haven't talked about this breakup with anybody as much as I have on this forum.

I am not sure what you mean by liking someone when you are in a relationship. It is unacceptable to have feelings for your ex. You have to completely forget your ex before moving on. Otherwise, it is not fair for both, yourself or your partner. You can find others attractive but does it mean you want to start a relationship with them?

I am not really sure about the history about you guys but seems he wants to try it with someone else.

No it doesn't make you attractive you're just going by appearances. I don't think you are his backup but its not like its hard to figure it out. If he comes back to you after not working out with this girl, then you're his backup.




Can you tell us again why you two broke up in the first place?

No, finding someone attractive does not mean I want to start a relationship with them.

Don't worry I will not get into another relationship until I have completely moved on. I know it wouldn't be fair.

Yeah, maybe I've become his backup...

We broke up months ago because we couldn't fix the problems we were having, so we kept fighting and fighting. What were the problems? Lack of communication, lack of compromise some other things that are maybe too personal. For me it's sooo hard to express my feelings, so it was very hard for me to communicate what I really wanted, so this would also create problems. After the breakup we still acted like a couple. But now that he has met this girl, he feels excited about this?

I do not even recommend being friends. This will bring problems later on.