Serious Relationships... - Page 10

He says he wants us to be friends forever, but how can that be possible? How can you have a new relationship and still be friends with your ex when you had a 4 year relationship with that person? The idea might sound sweet, but I don't see it happening. Maybe he's just saying it to ease the pain.

You should talk serious with him. Make sure you let him know...relationship or forget each other.

I don't call him, but I do text him. He calls me sometimes I've told him how sorry I am and how I'm willing to change what has been causing many of our problems, and he says he's still processing everything I've said and that he needs time to work out his feelings. Sometimes he's really nice but other times he's very indifferent, or I can feel his resentment towards me. But I haven't done anything horrible, like cheating on him or anything like that.

My pathetic self is afraid he's hanging out with this girl and it hurts. Sometimes I feel like he's trying to get to know this girl more, sometimes I feel like he's just taking his time to really know how he feels about what I've said.... Sometimes I feel like he's doing both...

Sorry about what?

About my lack of communication.

That's causing the problems? Not communicating what?

I know it's difficult Lunafiv, but like Flyingagainstthewind said, focus on other things like reading a driver's manual, and on YOUR dreams for the future. Trust me, once you're approved, you'll have SO MUCH to do that he'll barely cross your mind. Stop texting him/meeting with him and so on, you're only torturing yourself by doing that. Delete his messages and number, don't be friends over social media. You're giving him a lot of power over you by continuously communicating with him, please learn from my experience, don't do it anymore! He's emphasizing that he wants you to be ''friends forever'' so that when he moves on with whomever, if you get mad, he'll ask you ''but we're just friends right?'' It's a setup to keep you where you are, as a friend or in case things don't work out with others, as a backup.

Please don't torture yourself any further, you deserve to be happy, and deserve to be with someone that accepts you in your entirety. Imagine having a bright future, believe it, work towards it, focus on you, and watch the tide begin to turn in your favor. Things will get better.

Player to the Max!!! Move on...keep walking...You are basically a backup and basically if the other chick doesn't give him the light of day.

Exactly! If Lunafiv was a horrible girlfriend to him, he wouldn't still be speaking to her. He knows that she's a good catch but he's up to something so he doesn't want her to move on just in case his backup(s) don't quite work out. Move on Lunafiv, you deserve better, walk and when you're strong enough run and don't look back.

The only thing on your side is time. Time will help you forget about him.