Serious Relationships... - Page 2

I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting Lunafiv. I remember how heartbroken I was when my first relationship ended. I had just started college and although we were in a relationship, we were both college students so we weren't at the point of being ''serious,'' but we were a couple and spent a lot of time together. I was very heartbroken when things ended suddenly. In all honesty, he wasn't very kind to me but I really wanted to be with someone, that I overlooked a lot of red flags and went along. Fast forward a couple of years later, he was down and out and practically begged me to take him back...and I did against my better judgement. Guess what? Once he got back on his feet he did the same thing to me again, and then I remembered why the relationship ended the first time. My situation is a bit atypical because people that break up tend to at least be cordial to their exes which I was willing to do, but for whatever reason he was always hostile to me whenever we weren't together. After trying desperately to salvage the ''relationship,'' I finally decided to move on and meet new people. I happen to think that if both parties are willing and they have a healthy form of communication then both people can at least stay friends to some extent if the relationship doesn't work out. If your friendship isn't accepted by them, then it's their loss, some other guy will think that you're the total package that he's been looking for .

Break-ups are tough as you go through so many emotions (crying, anger, sadness) and feelings and even physical pain as you just don't feel like yourself sometimes, I've experienced it and it feels terrible. It's good to talk things out with others that'll listen, good empathetic people that want the best for you. It really hurts, but it'll get better with time. Keep your head up!

a couple of years I can pm you the details if you want its just a personal thing I only shared in the original love thread.

omg its Dream becomes Reality! My favorite poster here!! after butters of course, Whats up girl!

^^^^ Hey Pianoswithoutfaith! What's going on man?

Nothing much babes just chilling and whatnot you?

We did for the first few months...she had met someone else while visiting California and hadn't told me but I knew the real reason so part of it was me wanting to get satisfaction that she wouldn't think she got away with it. I would have dreams of telling her I knew and soon it was like the screaming sheep in the Silence of the Lambs. So one day when she was feeling guilty about it and called me to see what I was up to, I told her I knew and silenced the lambs. Later on, she moved to cali for good so that really helped forget about her.

I think it's best to just not talk anymore and move on. I've never understood the whole staying friends with exes thing. I've learned to be civil with the more non-serious exes but you can't be friends with an ex. It's un-natural.

What I hate is that I've realized it was mostly my fault, but there's nothing I can do now. It's too late!! I feel like he feels resentment towards me. But if I keep regretting what I did or didn't do I'm just gonna go crazy!! We can't be together right now. Otherwise we will hate each other soon.

If I could only get approved soon, or just get approved at some point I would have something to hold on to...But I feel bad when I start thinking about how this is all over and that I might not get approved, I feel like I'm drowning...

This guy was actually a good guy! We talked about marriage and all that.... He was a good guy...that's why it hurts so much.

Thanks for the feedback! I really appreciate it... For me it's sooo hard to talk about this kind of stuff in real life... I don't like feeling this vulnerable.

Live and learn Be a better GF for the next guy.

Well at least you had a relationship. I'm 23 and haven't even hold a girl's hand yet -___-''