I need help

I am seeking help or advice from anyone who knows where I may get it. My situation is the same as just about everybody's with the exception that I need to find help for my mother. My mother is the current victim of domestic violence by my father, both of them like me entered this country illegally. I tried to get my mother help, we contacted a divorce lawyers aid program, but they turned her down for being illegal. My mother can't seem to get away from my father and neither can I, he is very harassing, rude, and violent towards us. We have called the police only once and on that occasion the officer asked for my ID, since I only had my matricula, it was all I gave him, and he quickly responded "is this all you have, this is no good, where were you born, do you have a social security number?" After that we no longer called the police, they did start an investigation with the family protective services of the state, and they told my mom she had to get out, but they didn't offer her much help. My mother and myself cannot live in peace, and she cannot bring herself to call the police on him because she says she doesn't have the heart that he does,(we know that if we call the police he will get arrested and deported) however she can't bring herself to do that, and allows him to get away with so much. I myself have had enough, if she doesn't call the police I will, the next time he has a violent outburst I will, my mom I hate to say it because she's my mom is a (dumb a**)quite frankly it angers me that she allows him to be this tyrant and does not do anything. Just recently about 2 hours ago they had an angry outburst because my aunt was to take my mom to the store and here he goes saying that she's going to go whore herself, he then follows us around and throughout the entire county, we come back home and he gives us his look like we are a pair of dumb a**es...damn there is just so much a person can handle, I cant seem to see why my mom puts up with it. I just need help and would really appreciate good advice from anyone.

Why wait for something worse than getting deported happen to any of you? The next time he attacks any of you call the cops. He might be your father but he is a threat to your mental/physical health.

That's my train of thought to do, but my mom breaks down crying again and again saying she can't bring herself to do that to him. However she has stated she is going to leave him, I just need to know if because their marriage was in Mexico and they entered the US illegally, does it even hold validity here, and is a lawyer really necessary?

The US does recognize Mexican marriages. They can even get divorced here and later send the notarized documentation to Mexico to make the divorce effective back there as well, they don't need to be present. I would call any Mexican embassy for further details.
Your mother is probably blinded by her feelings toward your dad and needs your support in the form of clarity and objectivity. Find all the stuff she needs to proceed with the process and try to have everything ready for her to act right away, this will probably encourage her.

I wish I could help more but I don't know much about the subject, you should also try contacting some domestic violence hotline to get some support, they probably have Spanish speakers that could help your mom.

Your information was very helpful, I will try to do anything I can to help mom other out, I also want her to gain full custody of my two younger siblings. I have called a domestic hotline before, they wouldn't help me much, they just told me to convince my mom to talk to them, but she never did. I need to find a low cost lawyer, or even a free lawyer that could help her out. The one we tried to contact told us that they couldn't help her because she was not a legal permanent resident.

What the f... the police should not turn you down for not having identification. He has no rights to. I would definitely appeal it to his officer because it is not in their interest to have antagonizing relationships with people in their community.

I felt like he dehumanized me, after this you rarely want to call the police for anything. It really was irrelevant to what was going on that he asked why I didn't have a state ID or Drivers License, it's just the worse feeling ever and after going through the stress of living in a troubling situation, with the look he gave me, I felt like s**t. Of course he caught on to his error, but it didn't help from him being a complete jack hole to me.

Where do you live? Chances are the cops you dealt with were out of line asking about your immigration status. But in any case, you should call the cops each and every single time that something like this happens. And also keep a log with detailed information of any domestic violence incident.

The good news is that you and your mom might be eligible for a U-visa, so contact an immigration attorney as soon as possible.

Well unless I've misunderstood, you can only get a U-visa if you've been victim to a US citizen, which isn't the case here

According to womenslaw.org, "Your abuser does not need to be a U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident, and you do not have to have been married to the abuser to be eligible for a U visa."

Definitely check with a lawyer. Maybe try consulting Laurel Scott on immigrate2us.net. She participates in a chat room on Wednesdays.

Good luck!!