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Should we get married now or does it not matter?

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01-11-2015, 08:57 PM
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Hey guys, I'm an overstay with DACA. I have a USC boyfriend and we've been together for three years. He has known about my status from the beginning and we've talked about marriage many times. He is supportive of getting married earlier (rather than later when we are both established in our careers) in order to adjust my status. We are both 23.

Our biggest issue right now is the income requirement. He's in grad school but isn't working. I'm working but not earning much (looking for a better job though). We don't want his parents to know. My parents... are complicated but I'm not sure we can ask one of them to cosign. Still looking into that.

We have lots of pictures from the beginning of our relationship but we don't have much paperwork. I am on our apartment lease but no joint accounts or anything. We are going to add me to the utility bills and look into opening a joint bank account.

Sorry if this feels disjointed but I'm basically wondering if there is any merit to getting married now even though we might not be able to apply until later. My boyfriend said he would marry me two years ago just so I could get my papers but there was always something stupid that got in the way (like most recently I was worried about whether his family would need to get involved for evidence purposes). If we got married now, there wouldn't be a wedding or anything but I think we could go on a nice mini trip somewhere... I hope that's not a huge deal because even if we got married later, I'm not sure we would have a wedding. We want to have a nice one, which we could only afford later in our lives, and that's just too far off.

Anyway, I hope that makes sense. Any advice would be great, thank you!
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Get married when you're getting ready to get married and screw every other circumstance.
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Get married when you're getting ready to get married and screw every other circumstance.
In an ideal world, I would wait until we could afford it. But here, in the real world, I am undocumented, scared, and unhappy. We love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together so speeding up the process a bit by going through with the paper aspect isn't a huge deal for us.
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In an ideal world, I would wait until we could afford it. But here, in the real world, I am undocumented, scared, and unhappy. We love each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together so speeding up the process a bit by going through with the paper aspect isn't a huge deal for us.
i say just do it. get married thru court first. then have a big wedding when you can afford it. if you want to make it a spiritual event then hire a a priest or whatever. my friend came here and overstayed. she got married thru court and waited six months to file for her permanent residency. since she filed before a year she got a conditional PR card but its been 3 years now so she just became a PR and got her conditions uplifted. In the mean time get married and when your ready to file financially then do so. i know immigration prefers people to file long after they marry and not like the day after.
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i say just do it. get married thru court first. then have a big wedding when you can afford it. if you want to make it a spiritual event then hire a a priest or whatever. my friend came here and overstayed. she got married thru court and waited six months to file for her permanent residency. since she filed before a year she got a conditional PR card but its been 3 years now so she just became a PR and got her conditions uplifted. In the mean time get married and when your ready to file financially then do so. i know immigration prefers people to file long after they marry and not like the day after.

Thanks! I'm just hoping the lack of a wedding isn't going to be a big deal.
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Thanks! I'm just hoping the lack of a wedding isn't going to be a big deal.
It wont be. She had a dinner in a buffet. So simple and low key. Good luck
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It wont be. She had a dinner in a buffet. So simple and low key. Good luck
Lol aw, thanks so much
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Get married. Don't wait.

You do not need evidence from his nor your parents. As long as you guys live together it would be just fine. You guys don't even need to tell your parents.

*Two consenting adults getting married*

So here is my advice.

Start applying for joint documents.
Get married.
Live together (I'm going to stress this one out. Make damn sure you guys live together.)
Agents sometimes do routine visits to your home to make sure you guys "ARE" really living together. Because that is all they care about. That if you two are really married you guys should be living together.

Do not file the petition without sufficient evidence proving your marriage is legit.

Prepare:

Joint Bank Accounts
Lease/apt paperwork
Utility Bills
Credit Cards
Pictures etc.

Pretty much anything you can think of that can be filed jointly.

I have DACA. Been married for 5 years. My petition is pending right now. Should get our interview soon.

You don't have to wait 5 years tho ok? My story is different and more complicated than yours.

Anyway, after marriage probably 6-8 months file the petition.
You don't need a long history of joint documents.
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Get married. Don't wait.

You do not need evidence from his nor your parents. As long as you guys live together it would be just fine. You guys don't even need to tell your parents.

*Two consenting adults getting married*

So here is my advice.

Start applying for joint documents.
Get married.
Live together (I'm going to stress this one out. Make damn sure you guys live together.)
Agents sometimes do routine visits to your home to make sure you guys "ARE" really living together. Because that is all they care about. That if you two are really married you guys should be living together.

Do not file the petition without sufficient evidence proving your marriage is legit.

Prepare:

Joint Bank Accounts
Lease/apt paperwork
Utility Bills
Credit Cards
Pictures etc.

Pretty much anything you can think of that can be filed jointly.

I have DACA. Been married for 5 years. My petition is pending right now. Should get our interview soon.

You don't have to wait 5 years tho ok? My story is different and more complicated than yours.

Anyway, after marriage probably 6-8 months file the petition.
You don't need a long history of joint documents.
Hi Migz, are you an EWI parolee or visa overstay?
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In regards to the income requirement any US Citizen or permanent resident can co-sign. There doesn't have to be any kind of family relationship going on. So if you have any legal further-off relatives, or even friends for that matter, that are willing to vouch for you, then they're always an option.
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