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#11
09-20-2009, 01:29 AM
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just 3 words... George St Pierre

Or

Kimbo Slice

Lyoto Machida is undefeated but his fights are sooo BORING!!! (he has a wierd stance that frustrates his opponents and he usually wins by bizzare counter acts which angers the audience cuz its borrring)

But hey, buy a punching bag and start beating the living crap outta it... that should relieve the stress and make you feel better
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Hi there , I agree, I believe every one of us here in this forum have suffered from some symptoms of depression and anxiety. When I was going through depression myself I hadn't really known until my friend pointed out to me the symptoms .. I used to lock myself in my room and didn't attend school for about two months and almoat didn't graduate. But I was able to bounce back up.. Even though I have friends I still feel like I'm alone because they don't know the real me, they always question why I don't drive or things like that and I always have to make up an excuse , I seriously feel like my. Life is a constant lie..so maybe it isn't that bad that you don't have many friends because they really are more stress to me than help sometimes.. Anyways I still go through a bit of depression, there are days where thinking about my situation just hits me harder than the usual, I'm so sorry that you or any of us have to go through what we have to go through if you happen to live in north california pm me, I would love to sit down and talk to u and share stories. Keep praying and searching for something bigger everything will unfold like it should somehow or someway. Godbless
what you really need are friends that understand your situation. If you are lying to your friends about your situation then yeah, that is going to stress the hell out of you, it happens to me, and that is where finding this site has been just a great discovery. In fact, friendship is so important in the prevention of depression that most psychologists agree with the idea that the level of depression that one gets after retirement can be predicted by the number and closeness of the friends one attains, and whether or not those friendships extend outside of the workplace. But those friends have to be able to understand your situation. In a sense we have faced something that is somewhat equivalent to retirement when we left high school. We start in a new school and people are starting to drive around, the excuse of simply not having a car does not fly, and there is more need for money to do what we would normally do, all of that works to alienate us from the immediate friends that we have and that's what makes us more prone to this problem.

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..I can totally relate with you..I also cant have/find a job or afford college ..fortunately i do have a few friends I can count on and understand my situation..so if I were you Id start there, make new friends.we all need a shoulder to lean on..also what I try to do is not think about it..go outside, go to the park breathe in fresh air..relax..listen to music..pick up a hobby..reading a book is also good, go to the library (totally recommend it)..and if there is one go to your local zoo..or do volunteer work if possible..watch movies..and u can also try to self teach yourself on areas that correspond to a subject you want to major in college...youll get thru this..stay positive..
Community service would be great, builds up the good moral character we might be able to really use. There are many community service programs out there as well, if you are from the miami area I highly recommend Hands on Miami, I believe they have something similar for other cities but not too sure, either way, people create these community service events, get people to join and complete community service hours doing meaningful things for the community, not to mention that the kind of people that you meet doing community service events are really quite interesting and friendly.
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Hey there!

Well, when I was reading this post, I really thought to myself, "when did I write this?" It sounded EXACTLY like me and what's even scarier is that I, too, am from Trinidad!!!! I stay in my room all day looking at tv or online, depressed to the core.

I have lost friends because I simply don't make the effort to explain myself. Especially since I'm out of school now and every one wants to know what you're doing with your life now, so I rather avoid answering that. It's so hard and embarrassing to explain to people. I have a select few that actually knows my situation.

I wish I can give you some advice but I need some as well. Just know you're not alone although it always seems like you're the only one in this battle.
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Its so crazy to hear these responses from everybody I totally feel like I'm reading about myself, it just assures me so much more that I'm not the only person going through this struggle and that I'm definitely not alone... I have actually told a few of my closest girlfriends but even then I still couldn't explain to them how I was feeling because they don't know exactly what I'm going throug, no matter how descriptive I explain the situation.. They always seem to tell me "there must be a solution for you..." And I would always reply "trust me, if there was I wouldn't be in the position I was now". I'm not telling you not to get friends I'm just trying to say that I don't think anybody will fully understand u unlike the people do in this forum. Honest truth.I love this website
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Its so crazy to hear these responses from everybody I totally feel like I'm reading about myself, it just assures me so much more that I'm not the only person going through this struggle and that I'm definitely not alone... I have actually told a few of my closest girlfriends but even then I still couldn't explain to them how I was feeling because they don't know exactly what I'm going throug, no matter how descriptive I explain the situation.. They always seem to tell me "there must be a solution for you..." And I would always reply "trust me, if there was I wouldn't be in the position I was now". I'm not telling you not to get friends I'm just trying to say that I don't think anybody will fully understand u unlike the people do in this forum. Honest truth.I love this website
People don't understand what we go through. We can keep telling them that there are no options and yet they will still say "There has to be something." I've been there my self some days feeling like crap but somehow I managed to pick my self up again. The less I think about my situation the easier it is to live as close as possible a normal life. We are not alone in this mess.
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As you can see many of us have felt the same way and I'm in the same position as you after High School I lost all my friends and I don't go out very often anymore I missed those times when I went out with friends to the movies or just out with them mostly I just get angry to even think about my situation I try not to think but everything I see reminds me of my crappy life and how I can't do what I want. I'm not depress but I do get sad very often and feel like I'm just a big waste of space taking without giving anything back. Most days I just watch TV or movies go online and check on the Dream Act jut to get disappointed when I don't see any progress but I keep hope because that's the only thing I have left its the only thing that keeps me sane. I wish I could get some sort of relief knowing that there are more people out there in the same position as me but I don't it just reminds me of how cold and hard this world is.
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i just saw an online friend organize a hangout with their friend, it immediately hurt my heart. I can't even remember what it feels to have a friend in real life. I hate my life
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i just saw an online friend organize a hangout with their friend, it immediately hurt my heart. I can't even remember what it feels to have a friend in real life. I hate my life
LTD, where are you?
They estimate that there are over a million of us dreamers out there, they also estimate that there are over 12 million undocumented individuals. A lot of us get by living double lives, we have friends like any one else and we occasionally go out to have some fun with those friends, we just have to be more careful about who we go with and where we go.

living a double life is not that great, you feel like you are lying to everyone, but it beats the life of not having any friends. Eventually you might build on that relationship and someday feel comfortable enough to tell them of your situation.

See if you can hang out with them, or if you can build on the relationship of past friends, it will definitely help you for the better.

at the very least you have us, a lot of people that comprehend your situation because most of us are going through the same thing.

good luck
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i wish i could do that, i literally dont know anybody in the us, besides my bro and mom. The only way i could possibly meet new people is through school or a job, which I cant get. the only people i 'know' are my childhood friends that i found on facebook, i havent seen them in 10 years. Everything that could possibly help me, professional medical help, school, work, is all out of the cards for me because of my status and the years just keep piling up, and i keep getting worse. It amazes me how I dont know anybody in the whole world, I never thought I could be this bad. Im lost on either end, if I go back home, I dont know anybody there, and I dont know anybody in the us,
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i wish i could do that, i literally dont know anybody in the us, besides my bro and mom. The only way i could possibly meet new people is through school or a job, which I cant get. the only people i 'know' are my childhood friends that i found on facebook, i havent seen them in 10 years. Everything that could possibly help me, professional medical help, school, work, is all out of the cards for me because of my status and the years just keep piling up, and i keep getting worse. It amazes me how I dont know anybody in the whole world, I never thought I could be this bad. Im lost on either end, if I go back home, I dont know anybody there, and I dont know anybody in the us,
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