Telling your SO? - Page 4
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Originally Posted by hef107
Growing up my mom made it seem like if I told a soul ICE would come knocking on my door. I hated to feel alone. And once I was able to feel comfortable telling people about it it felt so much better to then come to them when I was feeling down.. Almost everyone I know in real life is a citizen..They don't completely understand how it is.. But, being open with those I trust is WAYY better than having to find ways to lie about it.  But my advice is wait till you're comfortable.. You also don't need to tell everyone. Date for a few months and if it seems to be getting serious, you can just say "I'm not a citizen"..When the opportunity to disclose it comes up. Then you'll get, "you're not a citizen??".. that's when you go, "Yeah, I wasn't born here"... and the convo can go from there. Good luck.  |
I actually haven't told anyone, one of my closest friends kind of knows because I have DREAM act stuff on my FB page that he saw when I logged on, but other than that I'm not open like that. I haven't told any of my previous boyfriends but for this one I want to be completely honest for once.
I'm not comfortable right now to tell him. I guess when the time comes I'll let you guys know.
Thanks everyone for your advice!
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Originally Posted by 01234
"A slip of the foot you may soon recover, but a slip of the tongue you may never get over"
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Originally Posted by Mona Lisa
I have told some people because I felt the need to clear myself. These where people that I felt close to. Honestly, I don't care who knows about my status anymore but those who I have told now look down on me even my closest friends.
I honestly don't need their sympathy or charity because it's not helping me at all. I have even told people in my own situation and even they don't understand me. I guess I should just keep it to myself. |
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Originally Posted by Ali
I tell them I'm game. Travel's never been a problem...money on the other hand. To answer your 2nd question, no
Forget about the ''security'' risk of telling others, I just don't see why people are so eager to disclose that information....it's as if they're feeling guilty about it somehow and need to ''come clean''<<<I just don't get it. But then again, I know how to live on my own and don't have to use people as crutches. |
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Originally Posted by starsNmoons
Could be worse. I have three "anchor baby" siblings and they all think they are better cuz they are citizens. The one after me is 15 and about to get her permit and a job and she loves to rub it in sometimes
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Could be worse. I have three "anchor baby" siblings and they all think they are better cuz they are citizens. The one after me is 15 and about to get her permit and a job and she loves to rub it in sometimes
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That sucks.
My older sister was actually the only lucky one to have been born here.. She doesn't rub it in my face.. Rather, STILL to this day doesn't understand how hard it is..
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