• Home
  • Today
  • Advocacy
  • Forum
Donate
  • login
  • register
Home

They need you!

Forum links

  • Recent changes
  • Member list
  • Search
  • Register
Search Forums
 
Advanced Search
Go to Page...

Resources

  • Do I qualify?
  • In-state tuition
  • FAQ
  • Ways to legalize
  • Feedback
  • Contact us

Join our list

National calendar of events

«  

April

  »
S M T W T F S
 
 
 
1
 
2
 
3
 
4
 
5
 
6
 
7
 
8
 
9
 
10
 
11
 
12
 
13
 
14
 
15
 
16
 
17
 
18
 
19
 
20
 
21
 
22
 
23
 
24
 
25
 
26
 
27
 
28
 
29
 
30
 
 
 
Sync with this calendar
DAP Forums > Other Topics > Other Topics

How To tell Someone that you like them?

  • View
  • Post new reply
  • Thread tools
  • 1
  • 2
  • next ›
#1
11-16-2010, 01:28 AM
Senior Member
Joined in Aug 2008
332 posts
lostpath
0 AP
There is this girl where I go to exercise and she is very pretty and I'm sure that she likes me. I've been trying to come up with a way to tell her that I like her but I keep putting myself down every time that I think of telling her. I keep thinking that she is better off without me. Has anyone here told someone they liked about their status? Who here thinks that I should tell her? As a men I feel like I don't deserve anyone since I don't have a job or a car it makes me feel extremely bad about myself and I don't have anyone to ask of what I should do. I'm afraid of what she might say. I tend to stay away from people specially women and that is killing me it makes me very angry because both my sister have boyfriends my older sister even got married and my younger sister has a boyfriend but I don't have anyone. The Dream Act doesn't pass and I feel like that might be the only way that I could feel good about myself to ask someone out but I can't wait forever. I have not idea of what I should do and I would really appreciate any feedback from anyone here.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
lostpath
View Public Profile
Send a private message to lostpath
Find all posts by lostpath
#2
11-16-2010, 02:11 AM
Moderator
From Illinois/Florida
Joined in Jul 2009
2,219 posts
buckminsterfullerene's Avatar
buckminsterfullerene
270 AP
Sounds like the worst pick up line ever, and its ill advised to disclose your status that soon, it could really easily backfire at the onset, she will have you dominated the whole time and you would not be able to do anything more then just pray she gets amnesia.

"Hey cutie, I am undocumented, wanna go out?"

no reason to disclose your status so soon, you've never even had a fight with that girl, you don't know if she might be the kind of person that might use dirt on you and spread it around when she is angry.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
buckminsterfullerene
View Public Profile
Send a private message to buckminsterfullerene
Find all posts by buckminsterfullerene
#3
11-16-2010, 02:51 AM
Senior Member
From Albuquerque, New Mexico
Joined in Oct 2010
150 posts
eli2036113
0 AP
Yeah man don't go up to her and be all "hey I'm illegal, wanna mingle?" I would just talk to her more, hang out with her at the gym or place where you see her, invite her to the parties you go etc and as things develop and things feel right I would tell her and see her reaction and if you still get that vibe that she likes you or doesn't care then id ask her out.
I only told one guy I "went" out with about my status because it was embarrassing not driving to pick him up or drive to our dates, and he lived too far to go on my bike or board so I told him. Things didn't work out because we were young and immature but he didn't mind my status, I doubt he even knew all the things that meant being an undocumented guy in this country so I guess he didn't care cus he didn't see the big deal.

So just hold on a little longer man, talk to her, and see where things go.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
eli2036113
View Public Profile
Find all posts by eli2036113
#4
11-16-2010, 02:55 AM
Senior Member
Joined in Mar 2007
1,617 posts
frbc13's Avatar
frbc13
0 AP
Be like, yo what's goodie ma what's yo name?, oh word? Straight up, say watchu doin this weekend?, u wanna kick it Friday night? Awready! lemme get dem digitz and imma hit u up. That's it.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
frbc13
View Public Profile
Send a private message to frbc13
Find all posts by frbc13
#5
11-16-2010, 03:01 AM
Member
Joined in Sep 2010
76 posts
Satiago72's Avatar
Satiago72
0 AP
Are you sure she likes you? Sometimes guys like you confuse friendship with something else. I say do the eye test.

One day when you two are talking, look into her eyes and don't blink. And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...don't look away before she does.

You're not her type if:

1. she holds eye contact, but then asks "what?" with a puzzled look on her face.
2. she doesn't hold eye contact with you and keeps acting as if you didn't try to look into her eyes.

She is into you if:

1. she makes eye contact, but looks away one second later, but then looks back into your eyes for another second only to look away again. Well, you get the message, she wants to make eye contact, but she is hesitant.
2. she makes eye contact and holds it, and she keeps on looking into your eyes even after she is done talking and both of you are just looking at each other without saying a thing.

If she is into you, then I say try to go after her; she won't care of your status. If she is not, then she probably just wants to be your friend.

I hope this helps you. Good luck.
__________________
Comienza el dia cero y manana su continuidad.
Sent: 10/1/2012...Delivered: 10/2/2012...Text Message...10/9/2012...Form I-797 10/11/2012...Bio App 11/1/2012 Approved: 1/17/2013 SSN: 2/4/2013
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
Satiago72
View Public Profile
Send a private message to Satiago72
Find all posts by Satiago72
#6
11-16-2010, 03:19 AM
Moderator
From Illinois/Florida
Joined in Jul 2009
2,219 posts
buckminsterfullerene's Avatar
buckminsterfullerene
270 AP
Quote:
Originally Posted by Satiago72 View Post
Are you sure she likes you? Sometimes guys like you confuse friendship with something else. I say do the eye test.

One day when you two are talking, look into her eyes and don't blink. And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...don't look away before she does.

You're not her type if:

1. she holds eye contact, but then asks "what?" with a puzzled look on her face.
2. she doesn't hold eye contact with you and keeps acting as if you didn't try to look into her eyes.

She is into you if:

1. she makes eye contact, but looks away one second later, but then looks back into your eyes for another second only to look away again. Well, you get the message, she wants to make eye contact, but she is hesitant.
2. she makes eye contact and holds it, and she keeps on looking into your eyes even after she is done talking and both of you are just looking at each other without saying a thing.

If she is into you, then I say try to go after her; she won't care of your status. If she is not, then she probably just wants to be your friend.

I hope this helps you. Good luck.
The direction that she looks after you look at her matters, for example she likes you if she looks down and not so much if she looks up, the latter as if saying "oh, please" sort of manner with the rolling motion, the latter could not be more obvious.

But I don't know I would take such instructions lightly, you don't want to seem as if you are following a manual or anything like that, if it is intended to work out it will.
Last edited by buckminsterfullerene; 11-16-2010 at 01:35 PM.. Reason: not likely... lightly
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
buckminsterfullerene
View Public Profile
Send a private message to buckminsterfullerene
Find all posts by buckminsterfullerene
#7
11-16-2010, 12:43 PM
Senior Member
Joined in Apr 2009
2,582 posts
Ali
0 AP
me, you, locker room in 10 mins.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
Ali
View Public Profile
Send a private message to Ali
Find all posts by Ali
#8
11-16-2010, 12:48 PM
Senior Member
Joined in Apr 2009
2,582 posts
Ali
0 AP
Quote:
Originally Posted by Satiago72 View Post
Are you sure she likes you? Sometimes guys like you confuse friendship with something else. I say do the eye test.

One day when you two are talking, look into her eyes and don't blink. And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...don't look away before she does.

You're not her type if:

1. she holds eye contact, but then asks "what?" with a puzzled look on her face.
2. she doesn't hold eye contact with you and keeps acting as if you didn't try to look into her eyes.

She is into you if:

1. she makes eye contact, but looks away one second later, but then looks back into your eyes for another second only to look away again. Well, you get the message, she wants to make eye contact, but she is hesitant.
2. she makes eye contact and holds it, and she keeps on looking into your eyes even after she is done talking and both of you are just looking at each other without saying a thing.

If she is into you, then I say try to go after her; she won't care of your status. If she is not, then she probably just wants to be your friend.

I hope this helps you. Good luck.
Quote:
Originally Posted by buckminsterfullerene View Post
The direction that she looks after you look at her matters, for example she likes you if she looks down and not so much if she looks up, the latter as if saying "oh, please" sort of manner with the rolling motion, the latter could not be more obvious.

But I don't know I would take such instructions likely, you don't want to seem as if you are following a manual or anything like that, if it is intended to work out it will.
Quit reading PUA BS
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
Ali
View Public Profile
Send a private message to Ali
Find all posts by Ali
#9
11-16-2010, 01:32 PM
Senior Member
Joined in May 2009
1,932 posts
Feenmi's Avatar
Feenmi
290 AP
Quote:
Originally Posted by Ali View Post
me, you, locker room in 10 mins.


Ali! Where the hell have you been?
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
Feenmi
View Public Profile
Send a private message to Feenmi
Find all posts by Feenmi
#10
11-16-2010, 03:25 PM
Member
Joined in Sep 2010
95 posts
hopedreamer2811
10 AP
Quote:
Originally Posted by lostpath View Post
There is this girl where I go to exercise and she is very pretty and I'm sure that she likes me. I've been trying to come up with a way to tell her that I like her but I keep putting myself down every time that I think of telling her. I keep thinking that she is better off without me. Has anyone here told someone they liked about their status? Who here thinks that I should tell her? As a men I feel like I don't deserve anyone since I don't have a job or a car it makes me feel extremely bad about myself and I don't have anyone to ask of what I should do. I'm afraid of what she might say. I tend to stay away from people specially women and that is killing me it makes me very angry because both my sister have boyfriends my older sister even got married and my younger sister has a boyfriend but I don't have anyone. The Dream Act doesn't pass and I feel like that might be the only way that I could feel good about myself to ask someone out but I can't wait forever. I have not idea of what I should do and I would really appreciate any feedback from anyone here.
First: Not being able to drive or not having a job should NOT make you think you are beneath a girl. If a girl likes you, she won't care, and if she does, shell be willing to look beyond that. She's more concerned about how attracted she is to you, how you treat her, how you two click.
Two: If a girl really is that uptight about all of that and isn't willing to budge, she is obviously not the girl for you.
My third point: don't tell her about it, because right now you're in the initial stage of liking her. Right now your pheromones are going crazy, and you could not be thinking rationally by thinking you should just tell her. You don't have to tell her.
There are many people out there without a job right now, just use the recession bandwagon to your advantage. That's what everyone assumes when I tell them I haven't been able to get a job to those that don't know my situation. lol. Carwise, just say you can't afford one right now, you need money to get one and obviously, no job, no money. All of that is true, without having to explain the big reason behind all of it.

That's all for the future though. For now, just talk to her more, be flirty, see if she laughs a lot, or looks at you when she thinks you're not looking, plays with her hair, gets nervous, anything that she does differently than when she's talking to other guys, and just go with what your gut says.
  • Reply With Quote
Post your reply or quote more messages.
hopedreamer2811
View Public Profile
Send a private message to hopedreamer2811
Find all posts by hopedreamer2811
  • 1
  • 2
  • next ›


« Previous Thread | Next Thread »

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Contact Us - DREAM Act Portal - Archive - Top
Powered by vBulletin®
Copyright ©2000 - 2026, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.