the feeling of turning down job oppertunities - Page 2

That's a nice chunk of change.

Taking advice from a Mexican Mafia member, nice. I prefer cartel sicarios myself, more ruthless.

Just reading that depressed the shit out of me.

LMFAO!!!!

LOL.

I dealt with this problem by just leaving the country... It's hard and sad at first, but you'll get used to it after a month. Now I'm back in my home country with a proper ID card. I landed 6 interviews in ONE month and got 2 job offers. Now I'm working in my field, and I'm still moving up and getting better offers that will start in a few weeks. I left in August, but already came a long way when it comes to professional development.

When it comes to leaving, just think if it's worth it to spend any more years feeling worthless and depressed. It could be 2-5 years, perhaps more until Dream passes. By then, you're already close to turning 30 and still haven't started your career while your friends surpass you.

Try it man. They're just visualizations. It's better than sitting on your butt and being depressed.

What advice are you talking about?

Sorry guys, I am not encouraging people to become felons. I just was trying to show how he, given his circumstances, prevented himself from going crazy. For those of us who plan to stay here, we need to find a way to deal with our situation, so we don't go nuts.

I was being sarcastic.

Has anyone else encounter the same problem????

My senior yr of college, I got approached and offered a job to head a project at MD Anderson that a team of four, including myself, had been working on in school. I knew I couldn't accept it, but I didn't want to "come out" - so I met with the guy that was offering me the job and told him he would have to go through the long, and complicated process of applying for a work visa for me. I wanted him to say...oh yeah that is too much and pick one of my other teammates who were actually actively looking for jobs.

But to my disbelief, the guy goes...."oh ok, well let me call the HR department right now and see what they need to get that started". Shit, I thought, now what do I do. So even though he had offered me a dream job with very, very sweet pay in the field of my career (medicine) at a world renowned medical institute, I had to avoid him and didn't contact him back. Yes, it killed me because I knew I was heading home to sit on the couch when I walked the stage. I suffered, but survived.

Then, within a 12 month period of this story, I applied to medical school because that has always been my desire- got accepted and won merit based scholarships, only to be denied from signing up for class because I didn't have all the right papers.
The thing that I had been working for since I was 12 yrs old was just made impossible for me. I cried, like we all are probably used to - but the show must go on.

I won't say I wasn't fully affected. I did end up in hospital for 2 days because I think the stress started manifesting itself physically, and I may be emotionally affected....but all in all......I think I have lived through some of the most emotionally and mentally wrecking time this past 2-3 yrs and I am still here. Still somewhat sane (as far as I can tell) and still alive.

Yeah, bring it on Dream haters.....I have a lot of confidence in myself and if even I am surprised at my capacity to handle things....then haters have nothing on me.