Undocumented dating - Page 4
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Originally Posted by Mantequilla
even if you are ewi?
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Originally Posted by Revolutionary Mind
Not to be rude or anything, but some of you guys are way into the whole "i feel like im a burden type, so no ones going to want me", the problem isnt that you're undocumented, the problem is your lack of a backbone. I ALWAYS tell a girl that I'm going to potentially date, or even a friend that I'm undocumented, it's better to always be truthful even with employers because let's face it, if you're in a relationship and you continuously have to lie about why you can't find a job, or why you can't even drive then you're only selling the person you're with short. I do drive, but not on freeways (due to terrible eyesight and lack of funds to go an optometrist), but you have to make it clear to girls because let's face it girls get lied to an constant basis more than guys and the point is refreshing to be truthful and to stand up and see the qualities in yourself. Yeah you may not have a job, but many of us are aspiring to become more than $9/an hour wherehouse worker, most of us go to school and want more out of lives. C'mmon man, if the chick doesnt like you cuz you dont have papers than the problem isn't you, it's her, but you also gotta man/woman up and do you.
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Originally Posted by Michcio07
I think the bigger problem here is that and maybe I am talking from my side I am sure that you will be looked upon differently than you would when you not tell that you are illegal. Many people have no idea about what is going on in the immigration and how we are dealt with. My friends don't know that my status is as it is, and I hear them talk about illegals when I am around me, and trust me they lack a lot of information regarding the illegals here. I just that that American's are becoming very stereotypical in regards to illegals. I think that it is something similar to how European's are stereotypical to Americans, that all of them are dumb and full of themselves and that might be true in many ways but also there is that other side... I dunno this is just me kind of venting and saying what is on my mind, and if it doesn't make sense oh well.
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So what if you're looked at differently? I dont know about you, but I rather let it be known and put myself out there than sit at home and feel sorry for myself.
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Originally Posted by ECW
So I went to this Christmas dinner last night and met this really really nice chick, we didn't really talk much. We basically spent the entire night looking and smiling at each other. Without me knowing my step mom went up to her and told her I was single and I liked her. Long story short I added her on facebook, the problem is I don't know where to go from here I don't know what to say. All am thinking about is my status.... Like she deserves better than me... I just don't know what to do. Should I try and talk to her... Idk...?
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So I started talking to this chick, really really nice chick. Without me bringing it up she asked me about my past and all that (Didn't mention anything about my status yet) her parents is from my birth country. I asked her out, she said yes. We are going to see a movie, just trying to figure out the day. I can sense shes looking for me to lead the way relationship wise, so I guess shes looking for me to pick her up for the date and for obvious reasons I can't. I live in Florida and you literally need a car to get around. Should I just tell her about my status before the date...? I really don't know what to do....
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Walk-In Done: 10-2-2012
EAD/DACA Approve: 12-7-2012
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APPLICATION RECEIVED: 9-19-2012I-797C RECEIVED: 9-26-2012
BIOMETRICS LETTER RECEIVED: 9-27-2012 for 10-16-2012
Walk-In Done: 10-2-2012
EAD/DACA Approve: 12-7-2012
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Originally Posted by ECW
but I've hear from her since.
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I usually don't tell anyone until it starts getting serious. If you tell them too early, before they get to know you for who you really are, then it's easier for them to walk away from what they may see as a potentially complicated situation. If they've spent quality time with you, and have started to fall for you, then they are more inclined to want to stick around, knowing you have great qualities and may be worth the added complication.
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APPLICATION RECEIVED: 9-19-2012I-797C RECEIVED: 9-26-2012
BIOMETRICS LETTER RECEIVED: 9-27-2012 for 10-16-2012
Walk-In Done: 10-2-2012
EAD/DACA Approve: 12-7-2012
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Originally Posted by ECW
Worst day of 2012 so far, before I came out to this girl. We had made plans to go to the movies and stuff, having good conversations. Since I told her about my status, I have been having a hard time getting hold of her and when I did get a hold of her online the conversation would basically be "hi" and "bye" Last night she posted a status update on facebook about some fair coming to town and this guy asked her if she would go with him and also to be his valentine, She said yes. I just feel like digging a hole and burying my fucking self. I just feel like shit... I can't even think straight right now.. I don't think I will ever tell around person again
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