Just found out my wife cheated - Page 3

We are married bro! Yeah I agree if she did it once what'll stop her from doing it again. When I confronted her about the cheating she did throw that in my face that I only married her for the papers. She was the one who proposed to marry and fix my status. I told her to cut that BS and not try to legitimize herself. I think I'm going to get the GC and then bounce. Go on a road-trip to Europe and get some phootang from the EU nations!

OP, First of all sorry for what happened. Secondly, you seem very emotional at this stage. I say fight this feeling and go through that petition. Once you get the green card, toss her out the window.

Yes! +1

That's the spirit bruh! Stop initiating contact with her, if she talks to u just be brief (yes or no) if she says OH I MISS YOU MY LOVE just say ok.

Be the boss you might be illegal but you are a human being who equally deserves respect.

Don't even think of FBing her or FWB... Don't give her emotional satisfaction

Hey bro, while going for the green card is a very logical option, you need to realize that you are going to have to be living/dealing with her for two years until you get your permanent. If all that stress, faking feelings and worrying if she is cheating on you again is worth a green card and think you can handle it, then go ahead. Otherwise drop her right now, because, personally, a green card is not worth all the emotional and psychological stress you are going to go through.

And this is random but my friend just posted on Facebook: "if she is trying to tell you....'i can explain'...... its too late bro.... time to move on." I second that, you are undocumented, not a fucking doormat! If you decide for the latter have a blast listening to Knife Party and watching Batman Movies. Good luck!

I nominate the above poster as DAP's official relationship mediator. Class act.

Yeah I've thought about the two year temporary GC thing. IDK I was thinking once I got it to apply to out state schools/internships in order not to deal with her. That way we're still "together" while I working or going to school somewhere else. Obviously we'd still have bills under our names with the same address. I actually have a friend who went through I'm going through and he was able to obtain his permanent GC without living with her. Oh BTW I fucking love Deftones! My personal favorite is their self-titled album!

ohh you guys are married already?? haha i overlooked that part.
well now its a whole new situation. You can stay to get your GC but its going to be tough leaving her.
I know a few people who got married for their GC and up and left their spouse only to find themselves in deeper shit because the spouse reported them to immigration.

SOOOOOOO i think you should really think this through.

HANG IN THERE BROTHER! Psychologically speaking it takes 6 months to get over someone, but I think that is how much it takes for a regular relationship, I guess it'll be a little longer for you, try to be strong, try some type of meditation, best of luck to you.

This happened to me a few months back, although in my case we were only engaged and were set to marry this upcoming Christmas. I know the pain you're going through, or at least a feel very close to it. I suggest not forgiving her and just walking out. At first you'll be tempted to forgive her. You might tell yourself its your fault for putting that stress on her, but it isn't. She knew your situation and lead you along. If she isn't willing to put up with paperwork to help you, she certainly wouldn't have stayed if you got cancer or lost your job in the future. As much as you love her, if she isn't willing to sacrifice for you, she mustn't really care about you.

You might lose a chance for that green card, but it really isn't worth it in the end. The pain of betrayal doesn't go away quickly, but it does soften. You may want to forgive her OP, but trust me when I say you, and all of us, deserve someone who can be trusted.