LIFE DECISION! HELP!! Marrying a CITIZEN.. she's a single mother - Page 5

Oh, forgot about the step-parent support after marriage bit.

Its varies by state. The short answer for Georgia is no. Stepparent are not legally obligated to support the child of the person he or she marries. Or after the marriage.

Not unless you opt to legally adopt the child. Or the custodial parent appeals to the Estoppel Doctrine (not easy).

However, her marriage, or change in economic circumstance visa vie your financial support, can alter her portion of child support.

http://www.gadivorceonline.com/gapag...pportFAQ.asp#2

Thanks for the reply. Kind of relieved to hear the straight forward answer. But I'm sorry, I'm not sure I quite understand the last statement.. can you explain it please? However what?

Oh I'm glad you're still around for no reason. Can you demand the mods to close this thread down again? I LOVE IT when you do that.. haha

Will do

If you married her, your assets and income are combined and so her portion of the child support can increase. For you, this means that you may have to help her pay up.

@Pianos - dude, did you think implying someone is an idiot is constructive? You want this closed. Point made. No need to keep repeating, because it just bumps it up for others to reply to anyway, right? What's the phrase - don't feed the trolls? Something like that.

@OP - To prove a bona fide marriage, you have to show you live your life together for x amount of years (please, learn how to use google, it's so easy). This means showing proof of joint accounts, joint lease/mortgage, joint car loan - stuff like this. When you enter into a contract or agreement for loans and subsequently divorce, you guys will have to settle on who will have to pay the remaining balance. The burden could fall all onto you, for an asset that she keeps. There is also the psychological trauma that could fall onto the kid and your would-be wife. She may not realize it now, because of whatever pathetic love blind she's under, but she could become vindictive and the way you describe her makes it seem that she's emotionally unstable.

A lot depends on divorce agreements. A lot of ifs. It is not a road I recommend going on when you are already questioning how long the relationship will last. You don't even seem to know what a marriage entails. I don't care if you're young, old, illegal or not - mixing your life with someone else's whether for long or short will affect more than you and her. You can't fault people here for "focusing on one thing" when you present the situation with words like:
- "which I'm sad to say.. it most likely won't more than a few years maybe? Cuz me and her are totally different."
- "I was thinking I can try things out, and if it doesn't work.. at least i got something out of it."
- "kid is the only thing I'm worried about.. not of how this may affect him"
- "probably thinking why I keep assuming that I'm gonna end up leaving her... cuz I know how I am... I'm looking for that perfect bolly chick"
- "Eh marrying this chick still seems like a much simpler option for me. And it's not like I'm using her.." (And in my opinion, just because she loves you and gets "something" out of it doesn't excuse you from being a user).

These points make it seem like you are interested in this girl because of what she can offer you; that you will only make an effort because of the papers - leading into the argument of fraud marriages and how it can affect all of us. Revisit marriage and path to citizenship when you find that perfect citizen bollywood chick whom you know you want to take care of for the rest of your life.

Hey, 'preciate such details. Our combine assets/income can cause her child support to go up.. but I don't know where that's coming from. She doesn't pay any child support? Am I missing something here? I'm sorry for my ignorance. Oh and what was that with the combining of the credit scores again? That doesn't seem like it's a thing.. is it?

And yeah we will have joint accounts obviously. We'd be getting married for goodness sake.. a wedding reception and everything. Joint account/credit cards/probably not gonna be buying a new car for her.. since I know she loves her current one too much.. Think she's already paid it off as well. Probably gonna rent a nice lil apartment nearby both our parents places, nice schools here too. She is already in the process of converting her religion.. but that, she's been trying to for a while. That's actually how we had met. But anyway.. I'm not thinking about marry her too soon.. just would like to know if it's even an option for me, which I think it might be. I'd probably continue to date her for a months and months.. maybe propose to her on christmas or new years eve if it feels like the right decision. Can't do valentine.. she knows that mine and my ex's anniversary was on that day. But anyway...

I don't mean to offend anyone by this thread topic. I'm stuck in a situation where I'm trying to figure out what to do. My friends know nothing about marriage laws.. or regular laws even. That's why I come here. We, as a group have help sooo many users out of their situation. Regardless of what the problem was related to.. spouse abuse.. parental abuse.. suicide.. leaving the country.. even some divorce threads. Mine is just that.. but a bit more complicated. Since I'm thinking of the worst in advance.

Think of her portion of child support as the cost of raising the kid less the biological father's contribution. Depending on how their divorce went, and how your marriage agreement comes to be, the bio father's portion could be reduced, thereby increasing the cost of raising a child for the both of you. Again, a lot of ifs. And no, joint credit score is not a thing but it is impacted by a fallout from your joint assets when/if a divorce does happen.

Just be mindful of how you word things or react. We are all on a tight rope especially with general elections.