Your Proposal and Wedding

DREAMers,

I am looking to propose to my gf in the next 6 months.

Question 1:
For my dudes out there: how did you propose to your significant other?

For my ladies out there: how did your significant other propose to you?

I plan to do it on one of our trips. This is the city where we both traveled together when we first dated, so it has a significance.

Question 2:
What did you do right after the proposal?

Question 3:
Am I making a mistake getting married? Do you look back now and wish you never did it or are you happily married?

First thing we did was set the best date for a wedding. Then we saved and saved while purchasing our first home.

Thank you for your feedback. Good to know that significance is important to you ladies. I've seen some awful proposals, where you can tell the woman was surprised and disappointed the way it was carried out.

Things are pretty serious and we've been moving in that direction.

Just a few follow up questions:
How come you haven't adjusted your status through marriage (or maybe you are)?

How long apart was the wedding from the day he proposed?

Nigga I took her out a winery in May time and told her we were going to do wine tasting. As we do some wine tasting, I have the owner set up a table, put some dessert there, wine, and rose by the vineyards. Then I tell her let's go outside and we start walking to the table and she is surprised. As we sit down and start drinking our wine and eating, I get on my knees and propose to her.

She hate it. Learn from my mistake.

- Make sure she has make up done.
- Make sure she is super dressed all fancy.
- Make sure there is a photographer hidden somewhere to take pictures.

Do not remember.

You are not making a mistake if you feel that she is the one.

- Make sure you lived with her before
- Make sure you two are constantly having sex with no issues
- Make sure she goes all out in bed
- Make sure she is not controlling your life
- Make sure you still have friends and can go out to have beer with them without her bitching at you
- Make sure she is willing to take care of you without bitching and saying I aint your mom
- Make sure again sex is good
- Make sure she has a hobby
- Make sure she is independent
- Make sure you are physical attractive to her
- Make sure she doesnt have a temper issue
- Make sure she doesnt have daddy issues
- Make sure she is cariñosa
- Make sure she helps clean in the house (so do you)
- Make sure she is a neat person
- Make sure she doesnt have confidence issues
- Make sure she doesnt think you're constantly cheating on her
- Make sure she doesnt control what and what you cannot do or watch
- Make sure she doesnt go crazy when she doesnt know where you are
- Make sure she lets you travel for work without being a bitch
- Make sure she doesnt make you feel guilty when you have to travel for work
- Make sure she doesnt make you feel like shit when you want to spend more time with friends
- Make sure she is not obsess with you
- Make sure she has her own life as well
- Make sure she is healthy
- Make sure she trusts you
- Make sure you trust her
- Make sure you she can admit when she does something wrong
- Make sure she doesnt always listen to her family but also takes your opinion
- Make sure for the third time that sex is good
- Make sure she doesnt put tantrum
- Make sure she can talk it out
- Make sure she doesnt think you dont love her
- Make sure she doesnt think you dont care about her
- Make sure she doesnt take over facebook
- Make sure she doesnt always read your text messages
- Make sure she doesnt keep you away from friends who are girls
- Make sure she lets you go to gym or play sports
- Make sure she doesnt get mad if you come 1 or 2 minutes late to pick her up or from a friends house
- Make sure she doesnt get mad if you decide you dont want to have sex
- Make sure she understand that work can be busy
- Make sure she likes your mom


Good luck.

This was insightful. Thanks for sharing man. I went through your list, and out of the 42 things you listed, I said 35 checks to those. That is roughly 83%.

I'll introduce you to her if I visit the east coast in a few months.

Out of all of the above suggestions make sure you love and have trust in each other and can communicate without avoiding/running away, everything else can be overcome with communication.

There reason why I haven't adjusted is because I'm inadmissible for reasons other than just EWI. (False Claim to USC). Huge mistake I didn't realize I was making at the time.

It was roughly 1 year and 9 months engagement. We had a long engagement because we decided to purchase a home and I was graduating college at the time. He also converted religions and became a Catholic so we could marry through my church.

What religion was he?

Baptist, although he had been baptized catholic as a child.

I see. That is unfortunate. We all have one thing we look back and think, I wish I could have done that differently. Mine is not pushing harder to get AP to clear EWI.

How did you claim to be USC if you don't mind me asking. Was it on a college app, federal assistance, etc?

And yes, you should've definitely done AP when you had the chance to do so.