Parents.... - Page 3

My parents aren't abusive, but its frustrating because I'm the child who has their back constantly but I'm the one who gets their scathing remarks when things go wrong.

But its not even the insults I'm frustrated with the most. Its typical of parents in my culture to be harsh critics. I'm more frustrated with the fact that I get reminded over and over again that my parents did me the ultimate favor, like being here was a blessing. And it is, no doubt about it, I'm thankful to them for it. But not in the way they want me to be. I'm getting more opportunities than I would have there, but I'm still in limbo, constant stress, and these opportunities can be snatched away at any time.

It's the hand that I was dealt with and I accept that. I know that God only burdens you with the stress you can take. No doubt my siblings would have caved in if they were in my situation. However, I always feel like the "you should be grateful to us" speech should be given to my siblings who got to reap all the benefits without paying for it. I get temporary benefits, but not before I get dragged thru the mud. In that respect I'm bitter.

My life is connected to them. My parents expect everything of me, too much was invested in me, but my siblings get away with " do what you want and be happy."

Like WTF is this?? Why do they get to live a normal life, while mine is in eternal limbo?

I did for a little while, especially after high school. I couldnt go to college and had to start working construction/janitor and I hated it so much. I used to say "why do i have to do this, why cant i be like my friends and go to college" I worked my ass off during those years and saved up money to go back to my birth country because I was done with the life i had.

Then DACA came along and changed my life for the better, so now im trying my best to help my parents since im an only child.

My mother used to live in Texas when she was expecting me. But when she was 6 months into her pregnancy, she had to leave to the country to take care of a relative... so I ended up being born just across the border in Nuevo Laredo, Mexico lol. Awful luck...I'm nobody to judge my parents, so I will defer answering directly to the question the OP posted.

No wonder why you’re always so damn bitter here.

Life is tough, but then again it would not have been better at my native country. Heck, I just bought a sports car, have a beautiful girl with me (unfortunately she aint a citizen yet), have a job I enjoy coming to work to every morning, and have 2 degrees. If it wasnt that I have to worry about one day being sent back to my country life would be perfect. On the other hand, if my parents never came I would probably be selling candy in a bus to afford going to college, and afterwards I would be a slave to a company because there are barely any laws protecting the worker back where I am from.

I do sometimes feel it is unfair that my brothers will get everything so much easier, especially since I am packed with all the information they will need (how to get internships, scholarships, schedule their classes effectively, you name it), but they are family. I will be glad if my siblings are more successful than I am and I hope they are. If anything, they cant complain about having a tough life because I had it tougher.

I actually haven't been bitter in my other post, so I don't know where you're coming form. Worried, anxious, and curious yes. But I've never looked to attack anyone or cause fights.

I am bitter towards my parents for this situation though, I've been denied many opportunities in the past not because I lacked merit but because of my status. My bitterness toned down after DACA took effect, but its a contentious issue in my house.

Are you chinese? dude, my parents were the same way growing up and my younger brother(born here) is like their favorite, because they were counting on him to get their papers. But family is family, man. Just talk to them and tell them how you feel. They are your parents after all. I totally get the "you should be thankful attitude" I mean I get it, they spend boatload of money getting me here, so thats really where the attitude came from.

Beyond furious at my father specifically, piece of sh!t was making hundreds of thousands a year when he was here in America and he prefered wasting it on hookers and drugs, got that piece of sh!t deported like 7 years ago, now he over there all broke as fck trying to get in touch with me specially to help him out. Im now in this BS situation thanks to his stupidity, my hard earned career on the brink of being lost.

I was angry when I was younger. In all honesty, who wasn't.

However, the truth is that when one is younger, they will always find some fault with how their parents brought them up and provided for them, thinking they would have done it better.

Now, that I am older - in fact way older than my parents were when they had me - I realize how difficult life really is, and my parents are the last people I could blame for my immigration status.

I do blame the people who gave them bad advice over the years, especially those who got paid to steer them in the right direction. For starters, there were three useless lawyers, who all received several-thousand dollar retainers to handle their case, yet when contacted about their case status did not even know that they had them as clients. The first two lawyers were hired and got paid at a time when it should have made a difference, in terms of different ways being available for adjusting one's immigration status. Later on, there were stops at different agencies who pretended to specialize in advising clients as to how they might be able to adjust their immigration status.

Today, there is no question - legal or otherwise - that both types were guilty of various types of fraud, some direct and intentional other by false promise. Consequently, these people are the ones at whom I direct what little there may be of my anger. My parents, and this will likely be true for all the parents of the people on this forum are people, had neither the knowledge nor the education nor the free time to learn for themselves how to find their way in this terribly broken system. Instead, they worked hard and raised their kids in a fairly unfamiliar and difficult environment, and along the way spent thousands of dollars they could have saved up for retirement on paying someone who pretended to have all the answers.

I understand the feeling, but I've actually never been angry at my parents, I do have pretty chilled parents though, so maybe that's why. Anyways, I am actually pretty thankful that they brought me here, because seriously, there's nothing good back home, being honest. However, I still get angry at the opportunities that I can't be part off because of my immigration status such as FAFSA, also, I won a couple of scholarships but they required me or my parents to have SSN so I had to forfeit them. I was also selected to work at NASA as a Project Engineer, BUT, since I am not a US citizen yet I can't be part of it, due to security clearances. Those are the things that angers me, because I see my cousins who were born here not take advantage of any of the opportunities they have and I'm over here busting my @$$ trying to excel in life and I get denied because of a freaking piece of laminated card with your picture on it uggghhhh!!! That! pisses me off, these fools (my cousins) are potheads with no jobs claiming stamps and I am the complete opposite. I don't find that fair at all.