I know this is Waaaaayyyy Offf topic but need help! - Page 6

erikasxoxo · 10-03-2007, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Valentine

^ she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. trust me, i'm a girl. saying no to a guy, to me, is like hurting their feelings and never being friends again. she doesn't say no because you're a pretty cool guy, and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. my advice: leave her alone and treat her like a friend.

I always thought you were a guy!!! lol...

But yeah, you're right... it's really weird, you don't want to hurt their feelings bc then they think you're a b*tch...

SDgrad · 10-03-2007, 01:50 PM

I'd say that you should move on. Maybe she's being nice since you guys have known each other for so long. She's probably not interested...........of course this is the feeling I am gettin from what you wrote.

dreamact1982 · 10-03-2007, 01:52 PM

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what I meant is that you want to be "there" for her not just there.. it depends how you project yourself. Don't be the tampon, be the guy that takes her out to have fun when she's down, show her a good time and stay away from all the "guy-friend" stuff.

I disagree OBJECTION LOL...Why should he take her out to have fun when she is down?! When he asked 3 times and she played him, i bet she wasnt much concerned that HE was down? Why should he then be? He is supposed to reward her with good time? What is he rewarding her for? For stringing him along all this time, the only time he should reward her with good time is if he has a reason to....You dont reward a small child with candy when they break a glass, and you definitely dont reward a female with good time if she hasnt at least made the "effort" to be fair to you

Hey Dreamact1982 I got to agree with you in this one, I really like the way you put things! You know now that I think about it, Yeah it was only me doing the effort to date her, Maybe it's my own damn Fault for asking over and over with not getting a straight answer from her! She didn't even tried to know me

BUT One Thing that still gets me kind of confused it's WHY IN THE HELL DOES SHE SAYS YES SHE WOULD LOVE TO GO OUT WITH ME? WHY DOES SHE SAY YES, IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME THAN WHY NOT JUST SAY NO AND GET IT OVER WITH!?

Because majority of females, will not tell you straight up NO they will always makes some kind of excuse or put in a way so they wont hurt your feelings. Never judge a female by their words always judge them by their actions (Look at your situation, you see actions over words)....Girls love when they see a guy chasing them and they tell him no, and he continues chasing them they love the attention, it even happens when they like you back thats the reality of the game..Im going to guess she is attractive, so she probably is used to having her ass kissed by every guy, now i dont know how you asked her out..But if you asked her out with words such as Can I? Will you? Do you think we can? Would you mind? (its already a wrap from the start) she heard this thousand of times.. Always tell her what you want (You want something from her? Right? So why would you ask her permission) , and be direct...Dont be like them other guys kissing her ass like she is doing you some kind of favor by agreeing to go on a date with you.....You want a test to see if if you REALLY LIKE her ..Go out/or sleep with other 3 girls if she still on your mind after this, then you got it bad and should pursue her..

The Voice heard · 10-03-2007, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Valentine

^ she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. trust me, i'm a girl. saying no to a guy, to me, is like hurting their feelings and never being friends again. she doesn't say no because you're a pretty cool guy, and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. my advice: leave her alone and treat her like a friend. she's probably thinking something alone the lines of "here's a hint!" and does all the things she's doing to you right now.

I see what your Saying But to tell you the truth I'd rather her the harsh truth and hear her say NO seriously! yeah I hear that you say because she might hurt me but I'd rather get hurt for a while instead of just keep on saying Yes!

erikasxoxo · 10-03-2007, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by The Voice heard

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by TanSHITo

what I meant is that you want to be "there" for her not just there.. it depends how you project yourself. Don't be the tampon, be the guy that takes her out to have fun when she's down, show her a good time and stay away from all the "guy-friend" stuff.

I disagree OBJECTION LOL...Why should he take her out to have fun when she is down?! When he asked 3 times and she played him, i bet she wasnt much concerned that HE was down? Why should he then be? He is supposed to reward her with good time? What is he rewarding her for? For stringing him along all this time, the only time he should reward her with good time is if he has a reason to....You dont reward a small child with candy when they break a glass, and you definitely dont reward a female with good time if she hasnt at least made the "effort" to be fair to you

Hey Dreamact1982 I got to agree with you in this one, I really like the way you put things! You know now that I think about it, Yeah it was only me doing the effort to date her, Maybe it's my own damn Fault for asking over and over with not getting a straight answer from her! She didn't even tried to know me

BUT One Thing that still gets me kind of confused it's WHY IN THE HELL DOES SHE SAYS YES SHE WOULD LOVE TO GO OUT WITH ME? WHY DOES SHE SAY YES, IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME THAN WHY NOT JUST SAY NO AND GET IT OVER WITH!?

Because majority of females, will not tell you straight up NO they will always makes some kind of excuse or put in a way so they wont hurt your feelings. Never judge a female by their words always judge them by their actions (Look at your situation, you see actions over words)....Girls love when they see a guy chasing them and they tell him no, and he continues chasing them they love the attention, it even happens when they like you back thats the reality of the game..Im going to guess she is attractive, so she probably is used to having her ass kissed by every guy, now i dont know how you asked her out..But if you asked her out with words such as Can I? Will you? Do you think we can? Would you mind? (its already a wrap from the start) she heard this thousand of times.. Always tell her what you want (You want something from her? Right? So why would you ask her permission) , and be direct...Dont be like them other guys kissing her ass like she is doing you some kind of favor by agreeing to go on a date with you.....You want a test to see if if you REALLY LIKE her ..Go out/or sleep with other 3 girls if she still on your mind after this, then you got it bad and should pursue her..

That is NOT true! At leat I don't like having ANYONE chase after me, I don't like the attention... I usually just end up saying that I'm taken so that I don't lead anyone on! ugh...
Maybe next time I'll say Im gay or something...

dream warrior · 10-03-2007, 02:05 PM

Hey i just came on board and ive been reading your conversation and its really interesting because Im sort of dealing witht ehsame thing except ive already gone further witht he gilrl but she doesn't seem want to commit to a serious relationship.

However, my advise to you would be to give her some space. You have already done enough to show her you are interested and if she really wants somethig with you she will come to you.

If she is one of those "friends with benefits" kinda girl you should try to stay away because i can tell you that it sucks when you are the one who wants more than just that.

The Voice heard · 10-03-2007, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by The Voice heard

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by TanSHITo

what I meant is that you want to be "there" for her not just there.. it depends how you project yourself. Don't be the tampon, be the guy that takes her out to have fun when she's down, show her a good time and stay away from all the "guy-friend" stuff.

I disagree OBJECTION LOL...Why should he take her out to have fun when she is down?! When he asked 3 times and she played him, i bet she wasnt much concerned that HE was down? Why should he then be? He is supposed to reward her with good time? What is he rewarding her for? For stringing him along all this time, the only time he should reward her with good time is if he has a reason to....You dont reward a small child with candy when they break a glass, and you definitely dont reward a female with good time if she hasnt at least made the "effort" to be fair to you

Hey Dreamact1982 I got to agree with you in this one, I really like the way you put things! You know now that I think about it, Yeah it was only me doing the effort to date her, Maybe it's my own damn Fault for asking over and over with not getting a straight answer from her! She didn't even tried to know me

BUT One Thing that still gets me kind of confused it's WHY IN THE HELL DOES SHE SAYS YES SHE WOULD LOVE TO GO OUT WITH ME? WHY DOES SHE SAY YES, IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME THAN WHY NOT JUST SAY NO AND GET IT OVER WITH!?

Because majority of females, will not tell you straight up NO they will always makes some kind of excuse or put in a way so they wont hurt your feelings. Never judge a female by their words always judge them by their actions (Look at your situation, you see actions over words)....Girls love when they see a guy chasing them and they tell him no, and he continues chasing them they love the attention, it even happens when they like you back thats the reality of the game..Im going to guess she is attractive, so she probably is used to having her ass kissed by every guy, now i dont know how you asked her out..But if you asked her out with words such as Can I? Will you? Do you think we can? Would you mind? (its already a wrap from the start) she heard this thousand of times.. Always tell her what you want (You want something from her? Right? So why would you ask her permission) , and be direct...Dont be like them other guys kissing her ass like she is doing you some kind of favor by agreeing to go on a date with you.....You want a test to see if if you REALLY LIKE her ..Go out/or sleep with other 3 girls if she still on your mind after this, then you got it bad and should pursue her..

No I don't think she's good looking as you seem to think, In fact she was always alone in class, No guys hardly ever talked to her and I was like the first guy that started talking to her! I was always with her in school and she was always happy to see me since I was the one who talked to her!
But I liked her because of the way she was! I liked her personality not by her looks

seriously!

erikasxoxo · 10-03-2007, 02:07 PM

^aww... WHO would turn down a guy like that????

Bitch... LOL.. You're too nice for her...

dreamact1982 · 10-03-2007, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by erikasxoxo

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by The Voice heard

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Originally Posted by dreamact1982

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Originally Posted by TanSHITo

what I meant is that you want to be "there" for her not just there.. it depends how you project yourself. Don't be the tampon, be the guy that takes her out to have fun when she's down, show her a good time and stay away from all the "guy-friend" stuff.

I disagree OBJECTION LOL...Why should he take her out to have fun when she is down?! When he asked 3 times and she played him, i bet she wasnt much concerned that HE was down? Why should he then be? He is supposed to reward her with good time? What is he rewarding her for? For stringing him along all this time, the only time he should reward her with good time is if he has a reason to....You dont reward a small child with candy when they break a glass, and you definitely dont reward a female with good time if she hasnt at least made the "effort" to be fair to you

Hey Dreamact1982 I got to agree with you in this one, I really like the way you put things! You know now that I think about it, Yeah it was only me doing the effort to date her, Maybe it's my own damn Fault for asking over and over with not getting a straight answer from her! She didn't even tried to know me

BUT One Thing that still gets me kind of confused it's WHY IN THE HELL DOES SHE SAYS YES SHE WOULD LOVE TO GO OUT WITH ME? WHY DOES SHE SAY YES, IF SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME THAN WHY NOT JUST SAY NO AND GET IT OVER WITH!?

Because majority of females, will not tell you straight up NO they will always makes some kind of excuse or put in a way so they wont hurt your feelings. Never judge a female by their words always judge them by their actions (Look at your situation, you see actions over words)....Girls love when they see a guy chasing them and they tell him no, and he continues chasing them they love the attention, it even happens when they like you back thats the reality of the game..Im going to guess she is attractive, so she probably is used to having her ass kissed by every guy, now i dont know how you asked her out..But if you asked her out with words such as Can I? Will you? Do you think we can? Would you mind? (its already a wrap from the start) she heard this thousand of times.. Always tell her what you want (You want something from her? Right? So why would you ask her permission) , and be direct...Dont be like them other guys kissing her ass like she is doing you some kind of favor by agreeing to go on a date with you.....You want a test to see if if you REALLY LIKE her ..Go out/or sleep with other 3 girls if she still on your mind after this, then you got it bad and should pursue her..

That is NOT true! At leat I don't like having ANYONE chase after me, I don't like the attention... I usually just end up saying that I'm taken so that I don't lead anyone on! ugh...
Maybe next time I'll say Im gay or something...

I didnt mean chasing, as in stalking..You dont like attention?!?! Oh reallly?!

Then why when you go out with your girlfriends you try to look extra sexier by wearing that skirt?! Its all for attention nothing else

erikasxoxo · 10-03-2007, 02:09 PM