Marry is the only way out - Page 2

Just hope you know, not everyone is like that

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I'm married but I'm miserable. It takes so much out of me everyday being with her. I haven't applied because I keep telling myself that I won't be around and I'll leave soon. She is very emotionally abusive and controlling and threatens to kill herself often, if I leave idk what would happen. I also have very little self esteem, and I'm pretty sure I'd be alone forever if I left her. I was secretly hoping SC ended DACA so I would have excuse to leave since I wouldn't be able to pay all the bills.

Jesus.

Ok this is heavy shit.

I don't think I have good advice on managing that relationship since I only know surface level stuff but I would like to put extraordinary emphasis on this part

Thats your self esteem talking and you need to accept a demonstrable fact that you are certainly capable of finding someone else... you obviously did it before.

I know guys who could be medically diagnosed as having shit for brains see plenty of women on the regular, and they arent even good lookin dudes.

Dude, are you freaking kidding me??? How long have you been married? You should apply ASAP. You’re paying all the bills too. The least she can do is apply for you, damn. If you aren’t going to leave out of guilt. Your wife sounds crazy. Do you really believe she will do what she says and kill herself if you leave her? Or she’s just being manipulative?

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Jeez that sounds worse than my fucking marriage. I only walked out of it suicidally depressed and with a few bruises.

Still, towards the end my plan was basically to get my green card and divorce. We actually filed the I-130 the day after we got married. Like we had the forms (I-130 and G-325A) ready, made a copy of the marriage certificate, swung by a Riteaid to get passport photos, and filed.

Almost two years. I also feel guilty for using her for papers, that's why I haven't applied since our marriage is dysfunctional. I have a nagging feeling she would report a fraudulent marriage if I left after papers went through even though we've been together for ~ 7 years since she is vindictive person and has been telling her friends we're only married because of Trump. Idk she would go through with killing herself, or is putting on an act so I stay. Makes sense for her since I pay for everything, do everything she says, run every errand, and cook every day.

Did you go through and get green card? Or did you leave before it went through?

I tried, shit went south around the time when I filed I-601A and my ex wouldn't sign an affidavit of support (even though I was the only one working so it'd be vouching for me, using my own income). So I had to file a VAWA instead.