My dad died tonight - Page 2

Thank you dreamer brothers and sisters. We've cleaned out his place and made all the arrangements and I'm in a better place mentally now. The man had a remarkable life actually - he was born dirt poor to illiterate parents and somehow came to the US in the 60's and got a bachelor's of science degree. The relations were quite different with the US back then so he didn't think he'd ever have trouble coming back here if he wanted to but then world politics happened and somehow or another we ended up here without him and we were apart for a long time until my USC sibling brought him here. I was resigned to never seeing him again before that but got to spend a lot of time with him in the last 3 years caring for him so I'm glad for that. I'm also glad he's not suffering anymore because seeing someone have trouble breathing is horrible and a helpless thing. I wish I could have done more for him but I did everything I could possibly do to make him comfortable and he got better care from me than most wealthier Americans get from their family.

Sooooo now it's time to focus on myself and try to figure something out for my life. Getting married seems to be the safest option and now that covid is gone and I've got free time again, I guess there is nobody else to blame but myself.

My condolences man. Burying my parents is perhaps my biggest dread in life.

"nobody else to blame but myself"...I thought of these exact same words. That's how I felt when I left in 2021. I always did things for family and built businesses for others. Now I have a chance to built what I want to build and live how I want to. It might be scary but push forward so that you have no regrets in your 60s.

I know you have been caring for your father for a while so know that he is in a better place. Green card/citizenship none of it matters when we close our eyes forever.

May his soul rest in peace.

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, I am sure he was very proud of your resilience. I pray you and your loved ones have comfort and strength to face each day.

Thank you, he was proud of me but was also in pain to see my potential go to waste. Literally the last advice he gave me a few days before he died was to "get your green card and don't be a slave anymore". I mean hell, he was even trying to hook me up with the daughter of a food truck owner he used to frequent! They were immigrants too so I would joke that "You know, for all we know their kid is a Dreamer too".

You're probably one of the most humble people around these parts and it sounds like you did right by your dad. I hope that your next chapter in life will be fulfilling.

My condolences.

Thank you. I can't believe it's been almost 3 weeks already. Grief is a wave, but the waves are not as big now. I'm seeing our mutual doctor this coming week (he was the one who talked to the medical examiner and ruled it a natural death and saved us a lot of extra grief and also signed the death certificate) to thank him, and also go over my own issues. That doctor serves mostly an immigrant community and is a noble man.

Sorry for your loss.

sorry for your your loss. From your writing your dad seemed like he would have a lot of world experience and stories to tell.