Dating sites? - Page 2

Let me find out you can get a girlfriend online... about to get my smooth on.

I thought it was weird at first, but then I saw this:




Get with the times brothah, our kids will be meeting their SO's online (cause they won't have any time either).

Ahaha

I have met most of my girlfriends online in some form or fashion, but I think it works best in a big city with a large pool of young people. If you live in a little shit town, it won't work. I have also been online since the early 90's BEFORE the internet was even public through local BBSes (Google Bulletin Board System if you have no idea what I'm talking about) and was part of that counter culture way before any normal people have probably met a 1000 people online for dates and thousands more through meetup.com and various different user groups. I am not exaggerating....We are talking a period of 18 years.

Online dating in the 90's was mostly through AOL believe it or not - you'd do a member search in your area and email or IM a random stranger and in about a week they'd warm up enough to give you their picture and then you'd stop talking. Every now and then you'd meet someone you got along with enough to meet...it worked best with people with a similar interest or ethnicity and people who didn't want to talk to strangers unusually didn't have a profile anyway. Met my college GF through there...lasted 2 years.

Now days it's far more mainstream with websites like Match.com , OKcupid, POF, etc. and even though few admit it, I would say the majority of people are on there. How do I know? I have run into every single girl I know in real life on those sites. The problem is that for guys, there are far more guys than girls on these sites - 3 to 1 or even worse. That leads to girls getting flooded by emails to the point where even the mildly attractive girls who in real life would not get a whole lot of attention start getting really big egos...I've learned to not play those games.

My experience with match.com has been that it's mostly for more serious daters - the "I need a husband, now!" crowd. It's also a paid site so it weeds out a lot of loser guys so it helps you be ahead of the competition if you're in your early 20's, but work against you in your 30's because by then spending $20 a month is nothing and it decreases the number of women who join since women aren't used to paying for anything dating related.

A lot of women there also are very specific about their dates - career, height, race, religion, etc. and tend to be more white religious types though not as bad as Eharmony. The response rate is also very low (I would say about 5 out of 100), but again, since only paying members can see emails, it's hard to tell whether it's because people don't dig you or because they aren't paying members.

For me, the last 3 people I met where things had serious potential were from match, highly educated, and had their act together, so people who do respond tend to be more serious.

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OKcupid is completely different. It's more for geeky hipster types and it's free. You fill out fun survey questions and your answers also let you know who you're compatible with and as much as I hate to admit it, it's been very accurate. I'm actually meeting someone from there tomorrow and have met more people off there in the past year than match. The app is good too though it's got a GPS thing that might be creepy as it tells you who's around you. It's really a mixed bag of people on there from those just looking for sex, to couples looking for a 3rd, to kindergarten teachers...

POF, is the worst one in my opinion. No real search method and I've met like 3 people there...one was kind of crazy starting fights with strangers at a bar.

Some tips:
Meet in a public place.
Beware of scammers
Don't give your hopes up before you meet - people are different in real life
If someone has 20 head shots and no body picture, they're hiding something...like 150 pounds of something.
First meeting should be short and sweet- just coffee, glass of wine, or cocktail
Remember, first impressions are everything. Dress nice, pay for the tab.

Lmfaooo!! Let me tell you man.. You definitely know your shit.. Everything you just said was honestly spot on.. I am currently on spring break and have had a little extra time to do whatever I wanted so I decided to check out okcupid (just to see what kind of people are on there) you are litterally spot on.. I said to myself "this is what's on the market?" A bunch of artsy hipster aspiring artists?? And if they're not that, it's just ghetto girls looking for sex lol and then you have the girls with all headshots who are hiding something lol

As far as match.com I personally know someone who used that site and found their "wife" on there.. The guys 41 and just got married last year so I guess that's the site you go to if you need to get married lol

But all and all, very interesting read, and wow over a 1000 people, very impressive lol let me know how your date goes tomorrow.

IamMan sounds like my friend. Online dating expert. She is a white girl though but really into the online dating thing. Actually the only people that I know use online dating or have met husbands online dating are my white girlfriends. One met her husband through e-harmony. In real life and based on her ex-boyrfriends I would have never put them together but maybe she changed. They are 2 kids down. The other one has no luck she only uses the free ones and has only met weirdos through there. She won't give up on it though.

I found this interesting:

Hmm seems like the free ones are all filled with hipsters and weirdos like imaman said

Wow very interesting facts lol especially the sex thing and unprotected sex, scarry lol.

Well, didn't expect to learn this much about online dating! Nor did i expect for it to be a larger industry than porn, lol.

I know a couple who got together through an online game. Woman lives in Italy, homeboy lives in Scotland (UK). They've taken regular trips to visit each other (both in their mid to late thirties). Last I heard, homeboy was in the process of moving to Italy.