I need to get married but i dont want to :''( - Page 2

I refuse to get married just for status. The right partner is crucial to your success.

I’m gay and when gay marriage wasn’t legal my gf at the time asked to ‘marry’ my dumbass didn’t take it serious and broke up like a year before it became legal. Now I’m stuck endless dating trying to find someone who could become the one. Sometimes my desperation for legal status makes me think crazy … like I should marry a dude just for status 😳😕

I'm very close to my older sister and what happened to her after she got married weighs heavily on my conscience.

My older sister married quickly, in part , due to desperation for legal status.

She has her green card now and is on track for her US Citizenship.

However, she's paying a very heavy price. Every now and then she tells me that she regrets marrying him.

My brother-in-law turned out to be a bit of a mess.

He was deceitful while he was dating my sister. According to her, he pretended to be this modern, cool, tolerant, chill dude.

After they married, he showed his true face and his flaws started showing:

1) Very Conservative- Votes Republican. Loves Trump.

2) Anti-Vax- my sister had to literally fight him and drag him to get vaccinated before our family trip to Florida because he kept bs'ing about getting vaxxed.

3)Prone to falling for Conspiracy theories- Believes 9/11 conspiracies. Believes in Deep State, that COVID 19 was a Chinese attempt at ruining the US economy, and a bunch of wacky shit.

4 ) Bigot- every now and then he will talk shit about black , brown, and gay people. My sister lost friends because of his behavior. During our recent trip to Florida, while we were waiting in line for a ride, he started trash talking a gay boy in front of us in our native language. I had to literally tell him to pipe the F... down. I told him to be mindful that someone could easily pick up what he was saying , record a video, post it on the internet and he could lose his job because of that. He's that clueless.

5) Black/White thinking. He's very like that. It's frustrating having a conversation with him. He sees things in simple ways and when you try to talk about complex or controversial subjects - he often misses the mark and comes up with some very wrong assertions about the topic.

6) Baby boy drama- He has a son with another woman from a previous marriage. This son is a constant source of stress and drama to him and my sister.

Now it's too late. She's married and she has a 1 yr old with him.

Every now and then she will call me and ask me for advice about something or another involving him, his other son or his crazy family.

All of this makes me very hesitant about marrying.

^Solution: DIVORCE.

Divorce is the nuclear option. Not being considered at this time.

She will have to muddle through all his cr*p for the sake of my nephew.

However, I keep all of this in mind and it makes me weary of marrying