Christian Dating for Undocumented Students - Page 2

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Its now or never. You might never find a girl like that for a loooooong time later on...

Go for it don't think it about twice. You don't want to think back later and realize you missed the opportunity.

Dude! follow these steps:

1. Ask her out.
2. Talk about status WAAAAAAY later, if things get serious.
3. Find out if she has a single older sister.
4. Introduce aforementioned older sister to me.

Hehe but seriously, dont pass up on life because of this legal sitch.

So I actually went through what you are going right now...I was working for her dad picking cherries believe it or not in the summer to save money for college...and I waited until the last day and I went to her other job (she also drove the tractor for her dad) at the mall with my little sister and asked her if she would go on a date sometime, the next part caught me of guard, but she totally said yes, and that she gets off work in 15 minutes...lol

To make a very long story short, we dated for 1 1/2 years, and had plans of getting married, unfortunately her mom never completley accepted me for whatever reason, at first I thought it was because of religion, they were super religious....but after I became a christian, it was still there, both her parents thought I was a great guy, just not the right guy for their daughter...so after some complications, her mom pushing, and a few events, we broke up unwinningly at first, but realized later that it was probably the best thing.

I didn't tell her about my status until probably 9 months or so into it, she was super scared about what it was at first because I told her I hadn't told her something serious, and actually kinda sighed once I told her what it actually was.

So yeah, go for it! Make sure her parents are okay with it also ^.^

Thanks guys, I recently found peace about this. She kind of just came out of no where. I wasn't expecting to date or start a relationship but the ideal girl came into my view. I am definitely going to get to know her better and spend time as friends and continue praying about this. I think God has His plans and I can trust that and be confident in Him. Regardless of whether it works out or not, I can be friends and trust that it'll work out if it is meant to be. Thanks a lot guys.

(yes, if you facebook stalk (few days back) you'll find one, kinda obvious)

hmm but I would rather talk about my status up front from the beginning when we are friends. I am pretty honest person and I tell almost everyone. It's kinda like accept it or leave it type of thing. I would rather confess it and get it out of the way while we are friends. Good idea or bad idea?

good you made your mind......Good luck...

Your right god dose have plan for all of us. And I'm glad you found peace about this, the good ones do kind of just come out of no where. I think you have the right idea about being friends first.
I have no clue if what's a Good idea or bad idea for u but i will say wait until you are good enough friends to tell her about your status because it is a lot to deal with. "Trust is not given it earned" so if she has not earned that level of trust with you I'd be cautious with that whole,

"I would rather talk about my status up front from the beginning when we are friends. I am pretty honest person and I tell almost everyone. It's kinda like accept it or leave it type of thing. I would rather confess it and get it out of the way while we are friends".

She might seem perfect on paper but u don't know her yet, so take your time to get to know her and build some trust between the both of you.

good luck, I really hope things workout for you.

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