Going back "home," how bad would it really be?

I know there's a similar thread on the first page but this one is a little different. Anyway, we all pretty much go through the same shit: stress, disappointment and isolation. Some of us, like me, were lucky enough to finish college, earn some experience, etc. If it wasn't for my non-status, right now, I'd be confidently flipping through job positions and that's if I chose to ignore entrepreneurship. I'm not going to go through my life story, but to say the least, I'm not a super overachiever but I still feel confident in what I do.

So that brings me to my question, how bad would it really be to go back home? Of course we all come from different countries (Mexico for me) and have different experiences, but papers or not, we'd still have to grind really hard to make it even in the US. So would we be out in the streets with cups in our hands? Or would we just live normal lives in our countries?

I hope to see reform, but if not, would it really be that bad?

Me like a lot of people are so use to being in America or have been here for so long that they dont know their own country.. therefore it would be super hard to adapt. I mean if your think its time to move on and go home than do it. I mean it cant be horrible you have to be smart and be willing to work hard.. I mean we are really handicapped here no driving, no school (for some), no loans for school (in some situations), cant travel.. cant get a visa.. etc I mean theres only a point where you say enough is enough and go on to live your life... obviously people make it here being illegally.. but sometimes its harder for others..

Im from Brazil I have family there and they arent in poverty so I dont think I'd be too overwhelmed.

god i wish everyone would go back and then they'd see that they can't live without us!

I have wondered about that so much. I listen to talk radio and there was a question by a listener that put some things in perspective for me. He asked why do we all keep saying we are glad our parents brought us here and why don't we try to change our countries. For me it would be Mexico as well and if I would've known then what I know now I might've left. See I have a family now and I am a resident but if I was single and hadn't fixed my papers then I would consider going back to Mexico and making a change. I woul try to make the country better and try to be proud of my nation. It is hard to grow up in this country and then to realize that we are not welcome. I still don't feel welcome even after receiving letters that welcome me to the U.S. Crossing the bridge for me is so difficult because I see the poverty. I see young men and women selling food among other items, trying to make a living and I know they work hard. It saddens me that Mexico has nothing to offer young people. I wish I came accross a good amount of money so that I could build a scholarship fund for my fellow Mexicans. It is sad to see the poverty over there. Perhaps some day when I have raised my children I will go back and make a change.

If you can sustain, I wouldn't say it is a good option.

At least for now.

I think that many people in this forum seem to plan leaving the US if DA doesn't pass by end of 2010.

Because it is predictable that many democrats will likely be replaced in midterm elections. Things will just get worse.

If you can get your education done, do it here before moving out. Most other countries accept US college degree so that you don't have to restart education.

Also I have thought of moving to different countries like Canada or Australia, but it isn't that easy either. At least I hope it is better than the US. But still you gotta wait for visa and satisfy requirements and have luck etc. Nothing is simple.

Anyway let's hope that DA pass by early 2010.

My though would probably different than others, but I am not saying that I have more difficult life since I know a lot more people have been suffered more than me.

I don't like my country at all. I was being noted as a example of "failure" in my hometown. I was kid there and people in eastern were generally verbally abusive to me, or what they said for most of the time offended me so much. My school grade wasn't good either and I am a F(failure) person, always getting F on my report card. So I am completely hating my country in the deep of my heart.

After I moved in here... Through the encouragement that my high school teachers and friends have given me, I have become an excellent student, not a failure anymore. I got A for most of the time, I made a lot of friends, I developed a lot of skills that somehow considered difficult to achieve etc. I was nothing more than a person who is loved by many, as in my view.

So you can understand why I want to stay here. Not because I love the government, but because I love the country, more than anywhere.

Unfortunately, passion alone achieve nothing.

Going back "home," how bad would it really be?

For me.. i would have to automatically enrolled in the military.. in a language im not fluent in..and start my life all over.. plus most important is the 10 year ban that could not come back to the us. And our family does not have alot of money to get settled back in our native land so i think it will be really complicated.. havent seen our families back for over 12 years.


So. I am going to start saving money here in us. I am going to create a company once dream act is passed.

I am never going to give up! and wait for the dream. waiting for it to pass and then go back and visit our home land proudly then come back to us to do business.

I believe this stage is the foundation of our successes. Once we get through it , the world is ourssssssssssss. and i promise i will always help those people in need.

You all should believe too!

"Yes we can!" and will get the dream act passed.

Hello I am from Mexico too I ask my self the same question over and over again. In Mexico there is a lot of poverty but is a developing country, and there are a lot of opportunities there. But we were raised here and we are used to this environment, our family is here.
Personally I do not see me going to back to Mexico, I could finish my education there and become an Engish teacher, a Interpreter who knows. But what about family I am sure I would be so lonely and depressed, and I would totally prefer to stay here and wait till the DA passes, if not Well I will just keep working as a housekeeper or Nanny like I have been doing the last years. I can live with back pain but not with emotional pain!!

hey guys i also wonder about he same thing , never came in to the U.S. illegaly neither my family . today i am the only one from my family that doesn't have a formal status. this spring i will get my bachelors degree in Networking and computer science and if the dream act does not pass then more than likely i will be going to Mexico. I am sure i can make it , Personally i don't think is a bad country because only those who have the desire of success are the ones who make it, no matter what the situation is you gotta look foward. but yeah most important im going to miss my family, friends and my girlfriend :/

It depends on what country you came from. If you're from Western Europe, it's really not that bad. They have better welfare programs there. If you're from some impoverished third world nation or some developing country, then it's no option of going back.