Effect on Relationships?

I was just wondering about this since its something its hardly talked about on here. How has being undocumented affected your relationships (like gf / bf)?

I know for me, it was hard telling my GF about my situation, she understood and wanted to help me (she is a natural born citizen) but she also had a family to consider and being so young, it became stressful, just talking about it. Sometimes I wonder if I'd be better off being single or dating someone in my same situation, just for sake of understanding and not feeling left behind in the world. Its a tricky feeling, you know?

It brought us a lot of stress and we broke up for other reasons after almost 2 years together, it was tough, Im still going through it all (on top of everything else of course), but how do you guys deal with all this? just wondering.

Have a great week, all.

Being undocumented has never had a negative effect on any of my relationships. If anything, people (or partners) have always given me props for overcoming the limitations that are brought about by not having a green card.

I actually have trust issues with my relationships because I'm always scared that if I tell my boyfriend that I'm undocumented, then he might report me and my mother if we were to have a messy breakup.

Also, I become very cautious in entering a relationship at all because I don't know if I can truly trust that person or if they're worth telling.

I'd wait a long while before I tell that person. You should really trust them first before you decide to spill the beans. I think if it's with someone you can really trust, telling them won't affect much. If anything, it strengthens that relationship... If they don't really love you or anything, they'd probably dump you for being illegal. But if they truly care about you, they'd try to help out.

I had eight boyfriends before I met my now husband. However, I never told any of them about my situation. I trusted them, just not enough to KNOW that they wouldn't report me when we did break up. I told my husband about it before we even started dating because we were best friends. He is a white citizen. Here's the kicker- most of his family is in law enforcement! In the end, my situation only brought us closer. However, it does get stressful sometimes talking to him about it because he can't really understand what I go through.

As for me, I've missed out on a lot. I've been with my girlfriend for four years now, her family has no idea about the situation I'm in. They actually invited me to go to Oregon with them for Christmas, and all i said was that I had plans. One time they invited me on a two week cruise PAID and I obviously couldn't go, my girlfriend understands why I can't go, and I'm alright with not going although it sucks. All I can do is thank God I'm alive and doing well.

Lets all just have hope that DA will pass soon.

I never really told anybody that I was in a relationship with except for my ex now..he understoood everythng cus he had family like dat tooo..iit made me feel real good dat I could finally tell sum1 but den d relatiionship jss went down..he just started to ignore me..and with no fights or arguments to even begin why he startd to ignore me?..but its watever though cus its like me nd him nvr happend..aha..but it does affect me being in a relationship cus for me I cnt feel happy bout myself bcus I cnt do dis nd dat nd to see whoever I'm with whenever cus I dnt hav a car nd I'm not gonna ask my parents for money so I can get stuff for me nd my bf? I jss dnt feel right and it makes me hav low self esteem cus it makes me feel like dey can find sumbody better ...=/..its sucks..

Im in a relationship where my bf is in the same boat as me.. which is SUPER hard we have depend on other people to take us places and its actually pretty embarrassing and it gets to be hard sometimes when people dont wanna take us.. We love eachother to death, but we cant see eachother and do different things (dates) because we have to constantly depend on others.

SO I wasnt the only one. damn.

I was in a relationship where my girlfriend straight-out told me that her parents didn't approve of her dating guys that didn't have any papers . And that they would be really upset if they found out they (she had about 4 sisters) didn't follow their wishes. I then thought back about when I started to date and she asked me if I had papers (I do) and I quickly got rid of her. Now for the kicker....all of her family is here illegaly including her!