Anyone else feeling as stressed and pressured as I am?

Everyone says to be patient, its gonna take a while and blah blah. Usually I wouldn't be so stressed about the wait. I am generally a pretty patient person.

But if any of you are like me, your community or circle of society is probably filled with people in the same position as us or closely related to people like us, except maybe they don't qualify for daca? But this is like living in some ghetto. People just don't like to see you get anywhere. Any favors they're doing for ya, they suddenly decide you don't need anymore, or people wanna start asking for favors. Or people start doing things out of spite.

Doesn't help when you are set to be the sole official provider of the household. The youngest in the immediate family, but suddenly, you're the woman or man of the house. Even mom and dad following orders? It's a weird feeling. I know I am not the only one. Everyone is looking at me like I am holding up the wait time, like I have the ability to speed things up. I am really happy I have this opportunity and have my goals set if God willing I can achieve. I just feel like I am not allowed to wait in peace, can't relax and fantasize about finally get that approval letter... I can't be alone here. This wait is stressing me out!

anyone else?

Amen sister!

Not sure what you're complaining about...You can always pretend you didn't qualify for DACA and go back to your peaceful stress free life of being 100% illegal. Wasn't life without any hope great? I mean you still had to find work without papers and were still responsible for helping the family out, but none of that pesky having something to look forward to. Imagine that for another 27 years. I'd bet in comparison waiting a few more weeks isn't so bad.

Amen to that too but


I think she's venting about the stress caused by family regarding wanting her to get approved and get a job to provide bigger bucks pronto... Like NOW...
Well that's how i read and related to it cuz it happens in my own home... Maybe i read wrong
But for me its not something new... Has happened since graduating college lol

Someone needs to take a chill pill... I'm a kid. I haven't ever had to help my family out, haven't ever had to get a job of any kind. I am not completely hopeless, wouldn't have remained illegal much longer (but that's nonaya).
I didn't mention anything about the daca process. I think it's pretty awesome, which if you'd bothered to read my post you'd have gathered. Butterfly is right, you read it EXACTLY right, I am simply saying, I can't get to enjoy the wait. You should read a post fully, instead of simply glancing at it and trying to bite my head off. Lol. I think the wait is stressing you out as well! HAHAHAHAAAA...lol :P~

IamAman, I think this particular person is complaining about more than just having to find work. It is more like their family is now giving them sole responsibility because he/she is the only one that is going to have some kind of legal status. We don't know their situation, they might be 18 or 21. Heck, he/she might even be 29 but all of a sudden having to carry the burden to care for your family is a lot of stress. I am what you would call an accomplished individual and I would freak out if all of a sudden my parents depended on me for everything. I could also see extended relatives being nasty because of jealousy or what not, I've seen it happen.

Years ago I knew a guy who was the only USC in his family, as soon as he was able to get his license at 16 he became the official driver for his immediate and some of his extended family. He had to drive everyone to work from 4am until it was time to get to high school, after school he had to work because as the only USC he had to help put money on the table at what his parents thought was a more decent job than theirs. Yeah, it was a lot of responsibility for this kid, too much in fact.

Dreamerangel, relax. It's hard, but try your best, go for a run, go to the park, try to get out of the house. We are all stressed out, especially because USCIS seems to be taking longer than expected. Also what we will be doing next is stressful-- we know have no excuse to not be the best that we can be. So it is completely normal to feel stressed, hopefully your DACA comes soon and that can alleviate some of the pressure from your family.

Oh, I just took the time to read your signature fully. Now I see @IamAMan. LOL!

@ivycali, you mentioned the driving people around. I am gonna have to do that too. Mom takes the bus and train and then another bus to work early in the morning. And she works HARD. You're right about having no excuse to be the best you can be. I wanna retire my mom, she's just worked too hard, you know? We don't need much to be content, my family. I am more than happy to take on the responsibility of the household...I just don't wanna be chased around with it. And isn't it funny, how now that this is coming to together, other things seem to be falling apart... And of course, my mom has always looked to me to be the positive, optimistic one. I keep her spirits up, so I don't have room to freak out. It's nice having the forum... and talking to ppl who know exactly how it feels.

So were they going to marry you to someone legal???
I look back and i'm thankful my parents didnt think of it... this man used to come around a lot (imagine a household w 4 girls) except that the dude was ummm awkward but not crossed eyed, his pants were tight as hell and o man! Oh hell... Just picture Napoleon Dynamite no not him, the uncle...
Lmao

Nope! Folks were whispering to my mom but I put my foot down there. I just meant, I set a deadline for myself. If something didn't give in 5yrs, whether it be a real marriage or a law passed. I'd go elsewhere. I can make it in any first world country, I was going to Canada legally (lots of family there) and then apply legally to re-enter US. I'm young, so in 10yrs (wait time for re-entry) I'd still be young.