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anonymous text threatening to report my family to immigration

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10-24-2013, 03:31 AM
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So today I received anonymous texts harassing my family and threatening to report us with lines like "your days are numbered"... on top of that, the texts are trying to damage my family, accusing my dad of having an affair with another woman.

My family is not very open about our status so it actually narrows it down, but the problem is that Im scared we cant do anything about it.

This mess started when my aunt's husband sexually harassed me, groping me and stuff. When we confronted him and his family about it, my aunt basically begged my family not to report to the police because she is embarrassed and she is worried it would affect her children's reputation (at that time my cousin, her daughter, was about to marry into this prominent family and she doesnt want it to affect her daughter's chances)... my parents being good people felt bad for my cousins and just warned my uncle to stay away. Since then my uncle has been pretending to 'repent' and go to church and even underwent couple's therapy with my aunt to 'fix their marriage', etc. My aunt pretty much eats it up and stands by him. However, around us he does not act sorry at all and pretty much blames us for why his kids, my cousins, hate him so much now because now they know what kind of disgusting pig their father is.

Back to the texts, we know its him because he is the only one who spells my parent's names a certain way. He is also one of the few people who knew about our status (my parents told him back when they trusted him). The woman being accused of having an affair with my dad is my dad's old business partner, and my dad remembers that in his whole life only one person had teased him of having feelings for this woman and it was the woman's cousin who teases him for visiting her house a lot. This cousin also happens to be best friend's with my uncle.

Right now we have no proof it is really my uncle but I really do not know what to do at this point. If we report him for sexual harassment, he would report my parents to immigration. I have DACA so I cant really get deported but Im worried for my parents.

I honestly don't know what to do and right now I have never hated being undocumented more. I feel vulnerable, and people who hate me can use that to threaten me.

Edit: I should clarify I don't have proof it is from him because the texts are from the Philippines and I don't know if those are traceable. We are 99.9999% sure it's my uncle who is the mastermind of the texts because of reasons listed above... He might have made some of his relatives in the Philippines text us or something. We have no proof it is really him which is the problem. My uncle is a citizen so we can't have HIM deported instead. The sexual harassment happened when I was a little girl but I kept it from my family because I was scared and my aunt really helped us when we moved to the US. It was not until recently when my dad was cleaning up our attic that he found my old diary where I wrote down everything. Also, I'm from California. I really do not feel comfortable being open about my status yet. I hope you all understand, I feel like the Asian community are not as educated about these things and it won't be as supportive.
Last edited by tiguangna; 10-25-2013 at 01:05 AM.. Reason: More info
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10-24-2013, 03:51 AM
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You guys can move out where no one will know and report your uncle. This may help you in the long run, maybe you can apply to u-visa.
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10-24-2013, 07:55 AM
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Ahhh...family...if the devil would pick a disguise...it would be as part of someone's family.
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10-24-2013, 08:45 AM
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Did this sexual harassment happen a long time ago? When that happens, you report it to the police right away. You should report him. You can't just let people do this to you. People like your uncle do this kind of stuff because people like you make him think you can be pushed around. If you let him do this to you, imagine all the other stuff he can do to you without him fearing any consequences.

I'm not sure if blackmail is outright illegal, but if I were you I would go to the police. What state do you live in?
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10-24-2013, 10:42 AM
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What's that guy's legal status? My guess is that he won't do shit. Are you in an immigrant friendly city? If you're comfortable with outing yourselves, I'd go to the police.
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10-24-2013, 11:20 AM
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1) He won't do shit.
2) Being blackmailed can actually lead to a U-visa.
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10-24-2013, 12:44 PM
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Do not erase those text messages because it is proof, and you do know that what he is doing is called blackmail/extortion and that is down right illegal. i dont know if you live in Cali, but they passed a laws where threatening someone with deportation is classified as blackmail and it can lead to jail. I say report your uncle and get his ass in jail.
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10-24-2013, 01:44 PM
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Reply to the text message saying that you know who he is, and the phone company can easily trace the text to him. If he doesn't stop then this time you will get the police involved, and he will go to jail for sure because you will also revive the sexual harassment case.
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10-24-2013, 11:35 PM
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Do not erase those text messages they are considered Blackmail and harassment . You can file a police report and they can trace the text message through the phone company.
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10-24-2013, 11:56 PM
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Even if you already erased them don't worry too much, your phone provider has a record of them, which they can produce when requested by the police or when ordered by the court. Just don't erase any new ones.
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