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About to take a big step in my life, not sure if I should!!! PLEASE HELP

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09-20-2017, 02:18 PM
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Hi guys,
So I know we are all probably stressed out about Trumps decision on DACA.
I remember balling my eyes out when my sister texted me a few weeks ago and told me my future wasn't promised here in the US.

I've been going to school and working so hard. I finally have my dream job of working in a hospital making decent money. I am gonna be 27 years old in two months and I really want to move out and live on my own.
But with the recent news on DACA, I don't really know where I will end up.

When I got DACA, I felt a relief. And I didn't realized I never made a back up plan for what if it went away.

I have been very stressed lately. I was in a relationship with a great man and he talked about us having a future. He loved me a lot but he was also moving so fast, that our relationship ending up failing.

I feel broken hearted, sad, stressed out. And now I wanna just move out and get my own place but don't know if that is wise until trump tells us what our future is gonna be like?

Anyone in my situation???
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09-20-2017, 02:21 PM
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Hi guys,
So I know we are all probably stressed out about Trumps decision on DACA.
I remember balling my eyes out when my sister texted me a few weeks ago and told me my future wasn't promised here in the US.

I've been going to school and working so hard. I finally have my dream job of working in a hospital making decent money. I am gonna be 27 years old in two months and I really want to move out and live on my own.
But with the recent news on DACA, I don't really know where I will end up.

When I got DACA, I felt a relief. And I didn't realized I never made a back up plan for what if it went away.

I have been very stressed lately. I was in a relationship with a great man and he talked about us having a future. He loved me a lot but he was also moving so fast, that our relationship ending up failing.

I feel broken hearted, sad, stressed out. And now I wanna just move out and get my own place but don't know if that is wise until trump tells us what our future is gonna be like?

Anyone in my situation???
We are not ALL stressed about his decision on DACA. Some of us believe is the best thing he has done.

I am also going to be 27 in two months.

Have you tried working on your relationship?

You need to give us more information on what is going on. Yes I am in the same shoes as you.
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09-20-2017, 02:53 PM
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We are not ALL stressed about his decision on DACA. Some of us believe is the best thing he has done.

I am also going to be 27 in two months.

Have you tried working on your relationship?

You need to give us more information on what is going on. Yes I am in the same shoes as you.
Well I did try to work on my relationship. Unfortunately he has moved on with someone else. The point I'm trying to make here is this man I was dating wanted to marry me but he was moving a little too fast. I felt overwhelmed and we ended up breaking up.

So I have to start my life over and I feel like being so close to 30, I want to keep working on myself and the goals I had set for myself. I have been living with my sister for the past 8 years and I feel like I'm already too old to not have my own space. And I feel like im finally in a place where financially I can afford to do so I just don't know if when 2018 rolls around and I need to renew my DACA (if it still exists) what is going to happen to me. The country where I was born is flooded right now with hurricane and what not.

All of this is stressing me out so I would like to know how trump announcing what he did is the best thing?
Do you live alone?
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09-20-2017, 03:00 PM
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Well I did try to work on my relationship. Unfortunately he has moved on with someone else. The point I'm trying to make here is this man I was dating wanted to marry me but he was moving a little too fast. I felt overwhelmed and we ended up breaking up.

So I have to start my life over and I feel like being so close to 30, I want to keep working on myself and the goals I had set for myself. I have been living with my sister for the past 8 years and I feel like I'm already too old to not have my own space. And I feel like im finally in a place where financially I can afford to do so I just don't know if when 2018 rolls around and I need to renew my DACA (if it still exists) what is going to happen to me. The country where I was born is flooded right now with hurricane and what not.

All of this is stressing me out so I would like to know how trump announcing what he did is the best thing?
Do you live alone?
Have you considered speaking to a therapist? If you're having a tough time, it's healthy to speak to someone so you can work through your emotions.
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09-20-2017, 03:04 PM
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Well I did try to work on my relationship. Unfortunately he has moved on with someone else. The point I'm trying to make here is this man I was dating wanted to marry me but he was moving a little too fast. I felt overwhelmed and we ended up breaking up.

So I have to start my life over and I feel like being so close to 30, I want to keep working on myself and the goals I had set for myself. I have been living with my sister for the past 8 years and I feel like I'm already too old to not have my own space. And I feel like im finally in a place where financially I can afford to do so I just don't know if when 2018 rolls around and I need to renew my DACA (if it still exists) what is going to happen to me. The country where I was born is flooded right now with hurricane and what not.

All of this is stressing me out so I would like to know how trump announcing what he did is the best thing?
Do you live alone?
Don't move out. Ride it out with your sister, and wait to see what happens with DACA/Dream Act. You mentioned you never made a backup plan if DACA was to end. Now's your chance. Keep working, save money, and hope for the best.

I moved out three years ago, and now I am stressed about how to move forward if DACA is gone for good and the DREAM Act doesnt pass. Still, I am holding on to hope.
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09-20-2017, 03:19 PM
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well im stressed out and just thinking of DACA as everyone else, In my case I rent my apt and care for my mother and children and come that I cant renew my DACA where will I end up??, I will have to move in with family and maybe sell chips, cokes, candies etc. in their home...

but i just say keep ur heads up If we go back how we were it wont be anything new... j.s.

I just pray something comes up
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Well I did try to work on my relationship. Unfortunately he has moved on with someone else. The point I'm trying to make here is this man I was dating wanted to marry me but he was moving a little too fast. I felt overwhelmed and we ended up breaking up.

So I have to start my life over and I feel like being so close to 30, I want to keep working on myself and the goals I had set for myself. I have been living with my sister for the past 8 years and I feel like I'm already too old to not have my own space. And I feel like im finally in a place where financially I can afford to do so I just don't know if when 2018 rolls around and I need to renew my DACA (if it still exists) what is going to happen to me. The country where I was born is flooded right now with hurricane and what not.

All of this is stressing me out so I would like to know how trump announcing what he did is the best thing?
Do you live alone?
I'm almost in the same situation as you. I married my gf of 8 years last year, moved in last April and had our wedding/honeymoon this last July. I also applied for AOS in June.

Right now we are going through difficult times, I left the house for a week, came back. I felt depressed living with her and was not happy. Things are not going well. She just signed the AOS withdrawal letter yesterday. Wee are currently seeing a counselor and trying to save our marriage but I don't know if I can. I'm giving it all I have.

You're young, you a lot ahead of you. Set new goals, get new hobbies and learn from the past. Always improve yourself

In terms of what I said of trump, that's the best decision he could have done because if he didn't act on it, DACA could have died in court. Now we have chances of getting something permanent. Trust me good times will come.

I live with my wife right now. If I were to leave I'll probably crash at my parents house. Then I'll live alone.

Think about it like this, it is better to be alone than being with a bad person. Your bf seems like an asshole.
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09-20-2017, 03:38 PM
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Hi guys,
So I know we are all probably stressed out about Trumps decision on DACA.
I remember balling my eyes out when my sister texted me a few weeks ago and told me my future wasn't promised here in the US.

I've been going to school and working so hard. I finally have my dream job of working in a hospital making decent money. I am gonna be 27 years old in two months and I really want to move out and live on my own.
But with the recent news on DACA, I don't really know where I will end up.

When I got DACA, I felt a relief. And I didn't realized I never made a back up plan for what if it went away.

I have been very stressed lately. I was in a relationship with a great man and he talked about us having a future. He loved me a lot but he was also moving so fast, that our relationship ending up failing.

I feel broken hearted, sad, stressed out. And now I wanna just move out and get my own place but don't know if that is wise until trump tells us what our future is gonna be like?

Anyone in my situation???
Empowerment is a very powerful thing, even when it seems like there is no solution. That word "until" shows your apprehension towards progress.

Continue on your path and see where it takes you by continuing along your goals.
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09-20-2017, 06:30 PM
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Due to the circumstances were currently in, I would continue living with your sister until our future becomes more clear. Save your money and once we're more certain about our future buy a house or something . I feel the same way sometimes about needing personal space but I have my mother and younger brother I have to take care of. Once this shit is over with I will look into buying a second home and living on my own but until our future becomes more promising , I will stay put with big decisions.
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Stay with the sister... as many have suggested.
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