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I feel that as the DACA debate gains more and more nationwide attention, we bring in 2 groups of people into our fold: more haters and more allies (aka people who are not undocumented but support dream act).

While I am grateful to most of the allies, I do feel that sometimes I am forced to ignore how problematic some can be because I don't want to look like an ungrateful bit*h. They have good intentions, they want to help, beggars can't be choosers, etc.

By problematic, I meant the kind of allies who walk in with a white savior complex here to rescue the little brown people. The kind who just want to join dreamer communities because it will look good on their resume. The kind who talk too much in meetings and take over the conversation when it should have been a space for actual undocumented people. The kind who acts like you owe them a favor now. The kind who tells you how you should feel even though they never lived as an undocumented person their whole life. The kind who post social media pictures of dreamer events they go to but forgot to ask if the dreamers in the picture wished to be photographed in the first place. The kind who get defensive when I point out these things because they genuinely believe they were just trying to help.

I think its just exhausting sometimes, not only having to deal with haters, but also having to suck up to these kinds of egotistic allies. I mean, I am still going to benefit from whatever crumbs of support I can get no matter how unwanted it feels, right?

Really, I appreciate y'all, the way I appreciate it when someone buys me a pineapple smoothie because they know I am thirsty, but they didn't know I am allergic to pineapples.
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