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Dating other DREAMers have been the least pragmatic way to have hopes to adjust one's status. But to those who have fallen in love with other DREAMers, how do you cope in regards to your future?

Having friends with benefits of sex buddies with other DREAMers does not count (not at all against that at all)

well, I have been dating but I'm not dating to adjust status or anything. Just date who you love and marry who you love. If you can't adjust status then figure out another way or move somewhere else in the world together. Aside from traveling outside of the US, we basically can do anything with DACA,

I have witnessed some DREAMers break up because they have gotten tired of unable to adjust their status.

This is something that has been on my mind early on...If I would meet someone from my own culture, I would not purse them once I found out they were here on a student visa or otherwise it was obvious they were fresh off the boat. Oddly enough, over the years I have met a lot of college students from various backgrounds who thought they could hit ME up for a green card as well because they would ask me how long I've lived in the US and I'd tell them however many decades it was at the time. Surely, someone who had been living here for decades is not an illegal!

But yeah, for undocumented person dating someone who isn't at least on the path to citizenship is just asking for hurt.

Talking to someone who is a USC and I like him but bringing up the topic and sharing this ugly part of my life is soooo embarrassing. He sees me as successful and someone who has her shit together which I do but this is the single most thing that holds me back.

no need to embarrass. if you like him and hes serious then just go ahead with relationship but tell them that you are not permanent resident here but as you have already pretty much everything you just want to be with him because you like/love him. period. if hes serious then he won't care about that part otherwise it will save you lots of time. btw, I pm'd you but looks like your never got it.

I was very much embarrassed by my status for a very long time, even after I became USC. My last serious gf's parent cannot accept the fact that their daughter was dating some who used to be a dirty immigrant. So that didnt end well. I mean I was kinda wrong for hiding my shit because of my own insecurities.

I learned my lesson so when I met my wife I poured everything out on the first date. I used to tell people riding a motorcycle is the purest form of freedom anyone will ever enjoy, but I was wrong. It will be the most satisfying and terrifying thing you will ever do in one conversation. Don't wait homie, live your best life.

I am sorry you had to deal with people who treated you with anything but kindness.

If the current situation doesn't pan out, I might consider doing the same. I live in Texas so deal with lots of republicans with their preconceived notions. I just don't want to put myself in a situation where I am letting my darkest secret out to a random on first date that may not go anywhere. Not to mention the potential harm they could do if things went south to other undocumented family members or if DACA was rescinded etc.

He seems sympathetic but may come as a surprise to him since he sees me as a "boss bitch" which I totally am. Its been 2 months and it is long distance. We've already seen each other 2 times so it is moving along - petrified to even bring up the topic but do need to rip the bandaid.

Responded to your PM -thank you!

dont go by initial sympathetic reaction. its human nature always sympathetic in the beginning because of personal interest and when they realize they dont need you anymore then looking for just one excuse or act so weird to get rid of you.

Daca has changed my life so much that I have learned that green card is nothing as long as you find loyal and loving person in your life thats all it matters. from daca I made so much and still going strong that I dont even bother chasing people for green card. honestly speaking, if I can find someone loyal and loving, respectful person does not matter if they are citizen or not. now I prefer happy life over anything. we get life only once and most of us already wasted here illegally until daca. now daca changed our lives so lets enjoy my friend.

and im proud of your achievements as well and keep up the good work.