Would you hold a grudge?!

Just wondering...Say you were brought to US as a kid, you lived there most of your life, you are kind of grateful to your parents for the tough decision they might have made, so you can have a better life. learn english, grad college etc..........After 15 yrs through thick and thin, they might have paid your education off, did their best so you can be ok.........But then at the end, gave you money and said this aint for you, maybe you are better off in another place?!?! Stop waisting your time, its not our fault the laws are so stupid, we dont know what to do you are waisting your life waiting for amnesty, dream act etc.......

Would you be pissed at them?!....Would you be more appreciative for the things they sacrificied so you can have a better life? Or would it not matter to you, would you hold a grudge?

In my situation it was not my grandparents that made the decision for me. It was out of my will to pursue an American identity, since the age of five I have thought of my self as an American. However, I do not hold a grudge against my parents, it was within their best interest to produce the best quality of life for their son's and daughter. Anyways, I won't get too deep, but I do not hold a grudge because all they wanted was for me to be successful in life.

Thanks Dado...you were always the best active/helpful on this forum......Waiting to hear more thoughts

hey man... sometimes the thought of having a grudge against them might get into your mind but you have to dismiss it and rationalize with yourself. At the time your parents were thinking its definitely the better life and a good choice... and it really was. You can't only say well I am in a bad situation you have to think about your parents also... I am sure they have to work their butts off but they have a job here and they are making it... if they were still in the home country might be a diff story. I am sure you are happy with the person you are also growing up here prolly had an influence on you. These are are only some of the positives of you growing up here bottom line is we might be in a hole at this point in time but we will eventually get out and you will be eternally grateful to your parents for making that decision. This is America mate hard work always ends up with success here. Just hold out a little bit and sacrifice and the reward will come.

I do not hold a grudge, but read my second paragraph. It's easy to put blame on someone, but when your parents, grandparents or other relatives decided that moving here would be best for you and they sacrificed a lot to get you the education you deserve, I just can't hold a grudge on someone who just wanted to help you out. After all, I'm assuming they did if for the best interest of their children and then themselves. For that initial decision, I do not blame them or hold a grudge against them. However...

...if they told me now to leave "to a another place" because it's pointless to wait for the DREAM Act to pass, I think I would be slightly pissed off. I would think that after high school you are able to make your own decisions and I wouldn't like parents or relatives to push you to leave, even though they might think that's best for you. I would want them to respect whatever you decide to do even if it is eventually to leave and start a new life. But it has to be on your own terms, not forced. You've worked so hard in spite of all the obstacles and I wouldn't want people to think you've wasted your time here. If you feel this is your home and you want to fight to stay here even if DREAM doesn't pass soon, then so be it. If you feel you want to move and start a new life even though you'll get a 10 year ban, then that is your decision. And that is that. Sorry for the long response.

I do not hold a grudge against my parents. I was two years old when I was brought here -- they had no idea what the future would hold for us but they brought me to have a better life than they did back in Mexico. I'm thankful they did.

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i dont hold any kind of grudge towards my parents or anyone who might have participated into this matter. i grew up in American society and American culture and i think i deserve the rights to sacrifice my life for the best of this country.

Try not hold a grudge, it won't fix shit and it'd just make you have a bad relationship with your parents. I'm pretty sure they already feel bad about the situation they've 'got' you in and they don't need you rubbing it in.


(not Directed at anyone in particular just a general statement for whoever holds a grudge)

its like someone else posted. the thought enters my mind. but then i sit down and think about things and realize they did the best they could.

Although it would bother me a bit if they told me to find my life somewhere else (not that they do)