Illegal immigrant students grapple with US dating - Page 2

Originally Posted by yaystarcraft

I dunno... I think there's already a lot of drama living life as an undocumented immigrant. Dating (for me at least) seems like inviting potential problems. All the bad guys who frequent bars are so willing to give me a green card for a relationship while all the good guys are impossible to find in the city. Being alone isn't ideal but at least I'm not dealing with drama.

Originally Posted by TexasDreamy

Haha, you shouldn't be visiting bars if you want to find someone to have a nice relationship with. Pretty much all the "nice guys" I've met are not the kind to go to bars in the first place. It's a bit anecdotal, but the guys that I know that frequent bars usually go there for the social atmosphere, drinking, and hooking up for one night stands -- not for finding people to marry.

Originally Posted by manny

Hahaha, this is funny. Like the others said, story of my life. I'm undocumented and going out with a white girl. I told her from the beginning that I was illegal and she accepted me. Her family knows about me being illegal and they accepted me too. =] I'm lucky to have her she does so much for me, drives me everywhere, pays sometimes. God, I love her.

Originally Posted by manny

Hahaha, this is funny. Like the others said, story of my life. I'm undocumented and going out with a white girl. I told her from the beginning that I was illegal and she accepted me. Her family knows about me being illegal and they accepted me too. =] I'm lucky to have her she does so much for me, drives me everywhere, pays sometimes. God, I love her.

Originally Posted by mikesandy

That's nice to hear. I think your relationship w/ the white girl would be successful in the long term since the chance of people complaining and the fear surrounding dating her is lower than if someone else who looks completely different was.

I think it's more difficult for people specifically like me. My family is of Caribbean heritage (Trinidad & Tobago, West Indian) and basically we have legally immigrated here to the US. Our skin appears black, although we don't identify as African American and during their time in the US, they have been exposed to America's social issues and understand what's wrong with the country. Some black women do have identity crises, and that's the problem. It makes it a little harder for black males to get attracted to black females since this is an identity crisis that occurs specifically with black people in America. My parents are also against me dating white women, since you're basically a black male dating a white female. There's no resemblance or connection at all with that kind of relationship, and that's the problem if I were to try dating a white girl.

Black, Indian, Mexican/Latin, Brown and Pakistani girls, are girls that my parents don't have a problem with, and I really think those are the ideal girls that I should date/be around. I'm not against all interracial relationships, I'm specifically against the black male/white female relationship and the black female/white male relationship.

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Originally Posted by sabzon

someone smart enough should start a marriage/hook-up site for undocumented students with citizens, but be subtle enough to brand it as anything BUT that, since that would be illegal...