How to tell a friend? - Page 3

Well, BOT...
In my life, noone outside my household knows. And I know a LOT of people.
Ive lived my life like a citizen, worked, drove, in college. All the things the citizens and PR's around me take COMPLETELY for granted. I'm just very careful. I trust many people in my life, but my balls still arent big enough to tell ANYONE. To be honest, i dont think i ever will.
I have good friends i keep close but still at arms length, No gf, so no one comes close enough to know. The fear, in conjunction with the "good moral character" i do so much to maintain just completely cloud the fact that i need to release and tell someone, Nope.
Until something passes, it'll be bottled in. Not because im an emo-bag, but b/c my situation just wont allow it to be released.

If You ever feel the need to tell someone though, nothing says you cant, but just be careful, nowadays.... u just dont know.
Thats all i can tell you.

I know what you mean.

I am in college right now and will graduate in 2 years. If the Dream Act doesn't pass until then, I'm getting out of this country. Not wasting my time where my existence with thousands of others are not appreciated or concerned.

So I hinted to my friends that I will probably leave this country after I graduate. I didn't go into details because then I would have to explain my situation.

One day I was hanging out with my 3 best friends from high school. We usually just hang out at one of our houses.. talking and stuff. We were talking and one of the girls brought it up. And they were all looking at me like "Why are you leaving? Don't leave! We will miss you so much. ".. And then I just broke down and started crying. I told them EVERYTHING from how I came here to how I ended up with my status. They were crying, I was crying.. They were born here so they didn't know anything about immigration lol so I had to explain what the Dream Act was and stuff.. They wished the best for me since they know I worked so hard to get to where I am.

It feels so much better for me, at least... They know that I can't drive anymore because my DL is expired and can't be renewed so they don't ask me unnecessary questions when I asked them for rides and stuff.. I don't know.. I like it... knowing that my friends know everything and still support me because my immigration status is just a 1/1000000000 of who I am.

Haven't told any of my friend. Not even people I go to church with... These are people that I have known for 10 year and still didn't told them. My parents strictly advised/ordered both me and my sister not to tell anyone. They might be my friend now...but you don't know how people can change. If you don't tell you are equal. If you do...then you are vunerable. That's what my parents told me...and sadly I agree with them.

In my case, I haven't told anyone outside my family but then a lot of people know about it. It's just sad to think that people who are close to me are telling other people about my status.

As someone who has a had a postive experience in telling a friend, I'd say only tell them once you've built an enourmous amount of trust between each other. Once you have that, just tell them, although sound confident instead of giving them a swan song. Share your story of how you came to be undocumented, what options you have and what you plan on doing if certain plans dont' work out. I told one of my good friends when I was asked why i was unable to fly to Cali with them. Seeing how eager he wanted to experiece California with me gave me the courage to tell him about my situation. Instead of flying, he opted to take a 2 day roadtrip to California so I could join! Today, he's out there calling and participating in getting the Dream act to pass! lol


When someone besides you and your family knows about your status, it makes it alot easier to go through those emo-days because you have someone to talk to. You also find out the meaning of real friends and know you will appreciate them all the more when you do obtain legal status.

To be honest with you, all of my closest friends know about my legal status...Most of them are very supportive and just see me as a unique person. I'm really not hesitant at all telling people about it as long as I feel they are slightly close to me and I can trust them...There is no need to be scared of anyone..it is what it is..you are an individual and you have every right to be known for who you are...plus there is no need to live in fear of anyone, nobody is going to even touch you...

It's like coming out of the closet all over again. After doing it for a while, it gets easier. If it comes up and I know they're a friend of mine, I don't mind telling them the specifics.

At work it's a different story. I've been managing a store for about 3 years. After I dropped out of college I thought it would be best if I earned money, started a network and started my own business if not here, after the DREAM Act passes, then in another country, but anyways, when people at work ask about school or why I'm working here, since I seem so bright, put together, articulate etc. I leave them in a cloud of mystery. Tell them it pays the bills.

I have to agree with most of the people here. It's easier and better to tell people you trust. They will be there to support you if they love you and are your friends/family.

I have hoped to tell people about my situation for a very long time, but alas I have not had the guts to do so. It is a very fragile situation and the bad outnumbers the good in most cases. There are just too many risks in increasing the circle of people that know of my situation beyond family and close family friends. Chief among them is the unpredictable course immigration could take with racially discriminating laws passing, it may not be long before some lawmaker trying to get free media attention offers rewards to people for reporting undocumented immigrants.

Until the DREAM Act passes and I am 100% certain there is no risk for me anymore, then I may consider telling my friends, but only consider.

Do you guys think you will come out and tell your friend about your situation after the DREAM Act goes through the entire process, passes, and you are guaranteed essentially not being in any risk anymore? Or do you think you will just do this in secret not letting anyone know?

i haven't told none of my friends about my situation.. if they dont ask we don't have to go on and tell them about it

Stop Writing These Super Long Posts On Here And Get To The Phones And Make Some Calls!!!!!

Dammit Guys!!