Advice needed

Originally Posted by LifeDreamer

NEXTLOVER as dreamers we all hold some mix emotions regarding our parents... To this day I don't really know how to feel towards them.. sometimes I love them and other times I hate them dearly for what i'm going through... I guess in time as we get older and wiser we will know how to truly feel..

We are in a moment in history where we are so closed to a reform package..

Originally Posted by NEXTLOVER

Hi guys. If you got some time, or if you just have some advice/insight/input, please read on:

My mother and I were under F3 category, filed by my USC grandmother, which became current in 2003. I was 20 years old at that time & SHOULD have adjusted my status along with my mother (my mother IS an LPR now because of this). Weeellll... at that time, both of us were not represented by an attorney; my mother did all the paperwork & she messed up BIG TIME (she sent the paperwork BACK to the "home" country instead of sending it to where she was supposed to send it in the U.S.. Long story, basically) which basically left me FUCKED (I couldn't adjust my status). This took about a year to resolve and by the time it was resolved, I already aged out (I was 21/22 already).

Our attorney tried to petition me under the CSPA derivative but I was denied (this was in 2007, I was 23 y.o. at that time). My mother was able to adjust her status and is now an LPR.

So this is where I stand. My attorney laid it out for me this way: IF my mother petitions me right now (under Form I-130), I will get a category under F2B & I will get a priority date real quick. Caveat? Telling/signaling ICE that I am in the country illegally, which ICE CAN start removal proceedings against me.

Is this worth the risk, guys?

I am 27 y.o. now, never been arrested, don't have a record at all (real fresh & clean!), ADN nursing graduate with a CA RN license (with a valid SSN) currently attending an RN-BSN program, which I will finish in June of 2012.

I was planning on just getting my BSN first (just 2 more semesters to go!) & THEN tell my attorney to go ahead with the aforementioned plan. Again, with the caveat that ICE can start deportation proceedings against me. My attorney says "I have a good chance," but don't all lawyers say that? Either way, I really want to finish my BSN first.

Any advice, any help, any guidance, comments... I'd really appreciate. You can imagine how hurt & angry I was with my mother. But you know what? She's my mother & I dearly love her. I forgive her (yes yes, she fucked me 2 times, technically) & I completely understand how she got so confused (she couldn't afford an attorney at that time). I've had a damn good life because of her sacrifices

Thanks in advance

Originally Posted by melpw

@grumpyd
I wouldnt even dare come home for xmas if my parents had just not given a fuck to legalize me...

Originally Posted by NEXTLOVER

LifeDreamer,
Thanks buddy. Yeah, believe me, there were times where I just absolutely fuckin' HATED her, then I'd feel guilty about it, then love her, hate her, etc. At the end of the day, she's my flesh & blood & my mother. Cycling through all those feelings, from one extreme to the next, did no good. It's not a good feeling to be in. Yeah, I'm looking to leave, more likely, but first I'll get my BSN then try to "fight" my case before I'll leave. Of course, me leaving won't be necessary if I actually can change my status... but I'm being realistic here.

GrumpyDreamer,
Thanks I know you're the "Canadian advocate" in the forum & I know you're from the PI, just like me. I'm actually not averse to going back "home," spending a year there then see if I can do my Master's in a different country. Of course, PI has their own nursing boards, & so does Canada (so in essence there would be two nursing exams I would have to take. Damn), but I do have a brother living in Manila now. So maybe "proving" that I've got SOME ties in my "home" country might be easier for me. Actually, he used to be a Dreamie too, grad. from SDSU with a business finance degree, left America, & right away got a good position in HSBC as their finance investigator. I think this is the road I'm looking at right now - leaving America for good.

Swim19,
THANK YOU for updating me on this! See, I've stayed with this same exact attorney for years. I'm thinking of looking around for another attorney, just to see a second opinion. But my case really isn't looking that well. I know for sure that marriage is the only way out for me, but damn. I feel like I'm one of those females stuck in the 19th century: "Hey ladies! Only way to make it is to be a whore or marriage to a rich dude. Choose your life!" In that case, a whore I will be LOL. It's just... I've seen how bad a "paper marriage" is, & yeah. I'm determined not to be in that position :/ I'm also not getting my hopes up about the 9th Circuit court of appeals (or whatever it is they're calling it now). That debate has been going on for so long that it's just not looking good at all. I gotta be realistic about it.

I think I'll just finish school, then see if I can "win" my case (ie - adjust my status). & hey, if in that time span I actually meet someone, get married... good! Most likely it won't end up that way so I'll leave. But not before "fighting" my case.

Originally Posted by NEXTLOVER

1.My mother and I were under F3 category, filed by my USC grandmother, which became current in 2003.

2.I was 20 years old at that time & SHOULD have adjusted my status along with my mother (my mother IS an LPR now because of this). Weeellll... at that time, both of us were not represented by an attorney; my mother did all the paperwork & she messed up BIG TIME (she sent the paperwork BACK to the "home" country instead of sending it to where she was supposed to send it in the U.S.. Long story, basically) which basically left me FUCKED (I couldn't adjust my status). This took about a year to resolve and by the time it was resolved, I already aged out (I was 21/22 already).

3.Our attorney tried to petition me under the CSPA derivative but I was denied (this was in 2007, I was 23 y.o. at that time). My mother was able to adjust her status and is now an LPR.

4.So this is where I stand. My attorney laid it out for me this way: IF my mother petitions me right now (under Form I-130), I will get a category under F2B & I will get a priority date real quick. Caveat? Telling/signaling ICE that I am in the country illegally, which ICE CAN start removal proceedings against me.

5.Is this worth the risk, guys?


6.I was planning on just getting my BSN first (just 2 more semesters to go!) & THEN tell my attorney to go ahead with the aforementioned plan. Again, with the caveat that ICE can start deportation proceedings against me. My attorney says "I have a good chance," but don't all lawyers say that? Either way, I really want to finish my BSN first.

7.Any advice, any help, any guidance, comments... I'd really appreciate. You can imagine how hurt & angry I was with my mother. But you know what? She's my mother & I dearly love her. I forgive her (yes yes, she fucked me 2 times, technically) & I completely understand how she got so confused (she couldn't afford an attorney at that time). I've had a damn good life because of her sacrifices

Thanks in advance