It's been a while but i'm back on the forum. - Page 2

I told one of my co-worker this year. A Vietnamese shorty, and she's like my f*ckn' best friend here in Cali now. But I knew I could trust her from the start, which never happens for me, and she's the only person I've told all year.
Dunno if that helped at all. Hah.

If she trusts you enough to go to Greece with her...

The act of telling someone about this situation tends to be a double edge sword. Some people tend to avoid you after you tell them others become better friends, it is a risk.

My big worry here is the parents oddly enough, you can judge whether your friend will be cool with your situation, but its harder to judge whether the parents will be cool with this and you would have to hope that your friend does not let that slip out and that their parents take it badly and do something extreme because they might consider you a bad influence.

I am on the fence with this issue, have not been able to tell my friends either, even those that I know would be cool with it and those that I even suspect of secretly being dreamers as well, my biggest worry is that they will just abruptly change and start treating me differently.

Well, we do think about sex and food all the time.... so are you saying that she's predictable and stable? then why the post... (disregard that last sentence, I like being a troll)

Anyway, I think you should tell her before she shows up at your door with tickets in hand, what are you gonna tell her then? that you never got around to getting your passport even though she kept telling you about it for at least a half of year? You'll just end up looking as unreliable and chances are yore gonna lose her as a friend....Let her know that you appreciate that shes your friend and that she trusts you to go with her out of the country. Make her understand that it wasn't your fault and that you are a good person and that she knows that. It's a leap of faith, she might understand and then again she might not, but what's going to matter is that you at least did something about it....

keep it to yourself

.... well.... I think they have a right to be irrational and even unstable with the scenario you put up.

I would be seriously scared of a woman that was too composed upon learning that her man was cheating on her with her own roommate. That would perhaps be a very major warning sign of something amiss that could potentially involve her seriously harming her self or someone else when she finally lets out those emotions.

hey, who let Mel Gibson on these boards?


Anyway, here's a simple solution: tell her you can't afford to go to Greece. As simple as that. In the event that she's offering to pay for you, tell her you couldn't possibly accept that.

For you BimmerFan and YOUR broken heart. Sorry!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUiTQvT0W_0&ob=av2e


As far as the topic is concerned, I think you should just tell her you can't go with her. Simple as that. Best of luck! =)

Story of my life.


Yea, ok
If only all those mirrors you have must have broken over the years could talk, I can't even fathom the stories of horror they would tell....


In all honesty, I will agree with those saying not to tell. Unless you know this person on such an intimate level that you can be completely assured she will never say anything, even to her parents, it's not a risk worth taking. If this is just some girl you're trying to be with or have developed feelings for, DON'T. You never really know the things people will do; we don't even know ourselves what we are truly capable of.

now... would it not be funny if two dreamers get together not knowing they are dreamers, build this whole relationship thing and get married before they disclose their status?