Parents.... - Page 2

Yeah, being cursed at is definitely not good. You should definitely have a serious conversation to let them know that kind of behavior will not be tolerated, as a grown up. I would also try looking into the root-cause as to what might be causing them to communicate in such harsh manner.

i'm not eternally "bitter" towards my parents, that's stupid.
at the end of every day, when i came home from school and then work, they were there for me, and still are.
i don't care that they were at times hard on me or didn't understand where i was coming from on certain things, they are still there for me and support me in anything. why on earth would i resent them?

I might of been bitter when I was a teenager but not anymore. They took care of me and now it's my turn to take care of them. Hopefully, by end of next year I can assure they retire comfortably.

Maybe you need to have a crucial conversation with your parents and let them know you don't appreciate the insults. Also take into consideration the cultural factors in the insults. For example, in my culture it's not uncommon to call their child stupid when they do something wrong. It's more of a term of endearment than anything.

Nope.

Nope, not bitter or angry at all. Very thankful for my parents for all the opportunities they've opened up for me that I would've never had otherwise.

@OP

Sounds like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

You live in a toxic environment. On the one hand, you are the leader of the household and without you, things would fall apart. At the same time, your folks drain your energy and criticize you, which I am sure affects your focus and aspirations to move forward in life.

You may want to leave that toxic environment, but you know if you do, your parents will suffer. On the flip side, if you stay, you will be the one suffering. Lose lose either way.

I would suggest having a heart to heart with your folks. If they are incapable of hearing you out, I would start creating an exit plan. You have one life my man (or woman) and you should not accept misery.

Pain is inevitable, misery is optional.

Good luck.

I think that if you do is a normal feeling. Specially if you are still young and think like you're in this situation you can't get out of. But let me tell you.. as you get older you will understand and appreciate what your parents did. Have you ever thought about how your life could turn out if you were in your home country right now? Who knows. But we can't change our situation right now so the best thing to do is accept it and deal with it! (Stay positive)

Edit: I missed the part where you are not in a good living situation right now. That can really make things insuperable. Like everyone here I suggest you sit down with your parents and let them know how you feel. They need to understand you and respect you as well as you do for them! Good luck! And everything passes!

if you got full time job with insurance, get some therapy man, it's good for you.

No. If I had stay in my birth country I would probably be a teenage mother based on how some of my childhood friend's lives turn out.

At the same time, I feel pressured as their only child to succeed. Every major decision I make I need to consider them.

It was only recently that I got a little annoyed. I was fine with it for a very long time, but then when I tried to adjust through marriage and wasn’t able to because of the permanent bar, I was upset. I was brought at 3 EWI, then at 8 we went back to my home country to visit family for a month and came back EWI. I didn’t want to talk to my mom for a week, not because I was angry with her, but because I was angry with the situation and just talking about it made me want to cry so I was just avoiding talking to anyone but my husband about it. I know it’s not something they did on purpose and I’m great full for everything they’ve done for me.