telling my boyfriend - Page 4

LOL !!!!! I am watching "lou dobb" right now LOL hahahaha. Yes, I agree, I was laughing out loud when I read that.

i say dont tell him.

the less you know about the other person while in a relationship the better

ok I am not in the same position as you but i am on the receving end of the news. my boyfriend and i had been together for like 5 months and he told me about his status. we were graduating high school and getting things in order to go to college and we were sitting on the couch and he just told me there was something we needed to talk about and he just flat out said it. at first i was really confused and i didn't really understand but eventually i up the courage to ask some questions and everything turned out to be just fine. my one suggestion is that if you do decide to tell him you make sure that it is something you really don't mind talking about and make sure that he knows he is ok to ask questions. since i found out my family and i have been doing all we can to help him and maybe find a way for him to get his status changed but we haven't been able to as of now. i realize that some people are not as accepting or ok with news like that but i think that telling them sooner rather than later is really helpful. I really hope this helps! good luck with what ever you decide to do!

uh... i think it should be the exact opposite. everyone's lacking in one area or another, and the more you know about someone and their shortness, the more of an opportunity you're allowed for understanding. ignorance can definitely backfire in a relationship, and trust me, telling my bf has definitely brought us closer, and i would imagine that would be the case for most relationships-- given the person you're dating is trustworthy as an individual.

^yeah its true. telling my gf has brought us closer too.

Hey guys! I came back to tell you guys that I FINALLY had the guts to finally tell my boyfriend. I LOVE THAT MAN! LOL..but he really didn't think it was a big issue between us at all.(he was sort of upset with me because I had him thinking that my "news" was something more horrendous and I had him thinking CRAZY thoughts) In the end, in a way I felt somewhat silly because of the heart attack/stroke/panic attack I gave myself with even the sheer thought of telling him, only to find out that he was perfectly OK with the news. But then again, me and him will make a year next month and if I couldn't do it now...I would have DIED waiting to tell him. (And besides, I honestly would not have wanted to ruin the romance and excitement of a proposal because I have to tell him a secret, you know?)

But I think it's a healthy fear to not want to tell anybody. Nowadays people are so hard to trust and some people are "out to get" undocumented people these days...so you all can understand why it has taken me to tell even my best friend my story. But as far as anyone else, I would not tell another living soul!!!!

But I'm very proud of myself to finally get rid of that HORRIBLE anxiety, and finally be completely open and honest with my boo... Thanks you all for the support. DREAM 2009!!!!

Congratulations!
I hope my story helped you out a little. That proved that he really loved you because if he didnt then he wouldve made a big deal about it.
It feels like a huge weight off your shoulders.

haha thats awesome! congratz, you listened to the right people

I say keep it a secret until he proposes. there's no use telling him now. and if you wait until he or someone else proposes out of their own free will, you're basically proving to them that love comes first and there is no ulterior motives.

you're still young. things can change. people can change. there is no harm in being on the safe side of things and leave out the unnecessary.

oh, hey op, congrats! ignore my last post. haha. just read your update. I'm glad it worked out, but you gotta know that sometimes some of us may not be so lucky. I wish you the best. stay safe and take care!